Nov 6, 2011

Take Actions Into Your Own Hands and Save Your Marriage

By Clay Andrews


Having said that, it is possible to keep your marriage alive even when you've lost all hope. At one point, your spouse is going to need to join you in saving your relationship. The question is..."how can you make your spouse want to save your marriage?" Try the following tips below to improve your marriage, even though you are the only one who's committed to fixing it.

Keep these 2 things in mind:

1) You are the only person in the marriage that may change yourself. You can't change anybody even if that person is your spouse.

2) Start making changes in your life, your spouse can take the lead to change also. This is due to the fact that when you change, your relationship dynamic can change too. This could push your other half to adjust too.

If you do these changes thoroughly and cleverly, it can inspire your spouse to do some positive change and you won't feel just like saving your relationship alone after all.

If there is any problems in your relationship of any sort, then the best thing that you can do is ask yourself on how you made a contribution to it. The issues in a committed relationship are seldom due to one individual. One such example is when your partner is treating you badly then you have to ask yourself why it is happening. Perhaps your partner is really is a jerk but if this has been happening for a while then it is usually because you are allowing it. You need to accept responsibility as well to why your marriage has soured.

One quote from Dr.. Phil, who has helped many people has said, "We teach folks how to treat us" This is a powerful truth. If you're saving your marriage alone then you have to ask yourself some things on why your spouse is reacting to you in this certain ways.

If you should happen to feel like you do not deserve respect then people are not going to offer you respect. Somewhere along the path, our point of view of our own self worth gets bent. And we perceive what we get is what we deserve. That is not the case.

Your other half is responsible for the actions being made. The single thing you are responsible of is your own reaction and your own approach. If you would like to keep your marriage alive, then you want to make the correct changes in your own reaction or your own perspective. If you're doing the same with no results, then you know you are approaching it the wrong way. It is time that you do something new.

Did you know that you have the power to switch your marriage more than you realize? When you change yourself, your attitude, behavior and reaction in your relationship, then you'll see that it can change your marriage too. All successful marriages consist of people who feel successful themselves as a person.

What if you just can't get the love back in your marriage? I know how hard it can be to try and make your spouse understand just how special your love is, but if you want to really make your marriage sing again you'll need to learn that you can't use the same strategy you've been using in the past.




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