How do you know whether or not your marriage is going to survive? This article may help you decide. If I made you pick one thing that would predict whether your marriage will survive or not, what would it be?
If you picked conflict or fighting then I am truly sorry but I am going to have to tell you that you are WRONG
You may not believe me but it is actually the opposite. Research shows that avoiding conflict is actually the number one predictor that you are destined for a divorce. Isn't it ironic how we try to avoid conflict in order to benefit our relationship? But the truth is we are actually damaging it by not fighting with our spouse.
Now I'm not trying to say that you need to go out now and hunt for your significant other just for the sake of fighting. Fighting doesn't mean that you have a happy marriage either. But what I am saying is that in order to have a healthy marriage you will need to fight once in a while. In fact this actually proves that you are in love with each other. You do need to learn how to fight to be happily married though.
People who have mastered the proper way to discuss their difference have successful marriages. But this is often not something that come naturally. This is an art that you need to learn. Once you learn how to have healthy disagreements then you will find that when you fight it will actually help your marriage move forward.
Now you can agree or disagree with me here but every successful couple fights because whether we like it or not no to people are perfectly compatible. Keep in mind though, having your difference is very healthy.
The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it's learning to fight well with the person you found. You'll have "irreconcilable differences" with anyone you pick. The question is whether or not you can learn to discuss them.
If you picked conflict or fighting then I am truly sorry but I am going to have to tell you that you are WRONG
You may not believe me but it is actually the opposite. Research shows that avoiding conflict is actually the number one predictor that you are destined for a divorce. Isn't it ironic how we try to avoid conflict in order to benefit our relationship? But the truth is we are actually damaging it by not fighting with our spouse.
Now I'm not trying to say that you need to go out now and hunt for your significant other just for the sake of fighting. Fighting doesn't mean that you have a happy marriage either. But what I am saying is that in order to have a healthy marriage you will need to fight once in a while. In fact this actually proves that you are in love with each other. You do need to learn how to fight to be happily married though.
People who have mastered the proper way to discuss their difference have successful marriages. But this is often not something that come naturally. This is an art that you need to learn. Once you learn how to have healthy disagreements then you will find that when you fight it will actually help your marriage move forward.
Now you can agree or disagree with me here but every successful couple fights because whether we like it or not no to people are perfectly compatible. Keep in mind though, having your difference is very healthy.
The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it's learning to fight well with the person you found. You'll have "irreconcilable differences" with anyone you pick. The question is whether or not you can learn to discuss them.
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