Oct 1, 2010

Saving A Marriage From The Doom Of Divorce

By Mark Mitchell

You have been a single person all of your life and you are wanting to be married. This is a union that should be a union that the both of you understand is important, and will have a serious impact on the rest of your life. Half of all the marriages in America fail and end up in the divorce section of the newspaper. If you are wanting to be saving a marriage, then follow the advice in this article.

At first when you meet each other, the sparks fly and you are in love. Nothing else in the world matters. Eating food is not important as it once was, and the other facets of life seem to have lost their meaning. Then, after a period of dating, and things are going really well, you decide to become engaged and announce that you are getting married. Oh, what a decision.

After a while, it just seemed natural to want to become married. The feelings of love are overflowing and it just seems right. You stay engaged for a while, then you get married in a beautiful ceremony.

Things are going well for a while, then, all of the sudden, your marriage has hit a brick wall. You didn't even see it coming. You both argue, constantly, and the fights get worse. You argue about tiny things and now that there are kids in the family, even more responsibility.

You want to be divorced, and at the same time, you want your marriage back where it used to be. To do that, you need to focus your energy on you both, again. It is time to put worries of the world behind you and focus on what both of you meant to each other in the first place. Daily life can be a grind on a marriage, but, it need not be. It is time to get the spark that you both had back to the forefront.

Do this every day for a while. Marriage means you two are together, not apart. Allot some special time each day just for the two of you. This will begin to rekindle the spark that you two shared in the past.

Romance and love in a marriage is what marriage is all about. It is the sharing of love for one another. If you do not share you love for each other, your marriage may end up in failure. Physical love like making love to each other is a vital part of marriage. Kisses and hugs along the way don't hurt either.

Spend quiet times talking with each other. And, when you do this, listen. Not listening to each other, is one of the reasons that lead to marriage failure. If you are interested in saving a marriage, starting with yours, then follow some of the above advice.

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Sep 30, 2010

Saving A Relationship: Quick Tips To Use Now

By Samantha Jaim

The very basic element before saving a relationship is to know if it is worth it in the first place. Are you still in love with each other? If you'll both say yes to that question, then, what are you waiting for? Do something and save your relationship.

If you have built a doubt wall between the two of you, get rid of it now. It will only just divide you farther apart. You should both forget the things that have brought you into this kind of situation to be able to make things work. Start over again with a clean slate. Be optimistic that it will work out just fine this time.

Time is of vital role in this whole issue. Your relationship did not get rough overnight and so you can neither fix nor treat it on an overnight basis too. It will take some time. You need to be prepared for that. But the sooner you try to fix things, the better.

Then try to look at the whole situation in your partner's point of view. Seeing everything in a new perspective will help you see through what's really been affecting your relationship. However, too often when things starts to get rough and cease running the way we want it, we then think it is time for survival mode. That's when everything becomes unsuitable. We just think of ourselves that we forget it should be teamwork. No relationship can survive if teamwork is not present.

The perfect way to get your partner's perspective on things is to sit down with him or her and talk. Never ever presume that you know everything as that could only make things worst once you're wrong.

Then when inviting your partner for a talk, set aside your ego or pride first. If you have to leave it on your door or locked it somewhere, do it. Remember the saying, "Pride goeth before the fall". Unless you want the relationship to fall, you will make up your mind and choose saving your relationship than keeping your pride.

Then, during the actual conversation, setting up the ground rule is very vital. The first rule should be, let your partner express how he or she really feels about your relationship. Show him or her respect for you to get the same thing from him or her. Never interrupt when your partner is still talking. Patiently wait for your turn and stay focus on things that are relevant. Take down notes if necessary.

Be certain to stay calm and collected as much as possible. Never get furious easily about what your partner has to say. The only thing that could make everything possible is to leave all the hurt, anger, frustrations and unpleasant feelings behind your door.

Do not leave anything unresolved. Whatever the issues, make sure to talk about it. If that would mean having more talk session, do it. Anything that would be left behind will just attack the both of you. It will just poison the blood that supplies oxygen into your relationship. If you will let that spread into the entire system then your relationship will certainly die.

Saving a relationship is not that easy.it requires time coupled with efforts on both parties. Giving time and effort on working things out will just show how committed you are with each other. And that will make your relationship a lot stronger than yesterday.

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