As in any intimate relationship, complacency can emerge. You become familiar, comfortable with one another and before you realize it, the fire you once felt is diminishing. This is a very common fact of marriage. I see you nodding your head and thinking, "yep, that's us. I want to save my marriage before it gets dull and lost in responsibility". Good for you! You've come to the best place. Let's see what you can do to rekindle the flame that brought you together originally.
Do you remember your very first date together? Where was it? What did you do? What were you wearing? Was it raining, cold, sunny, could it have been warm? What made the day special? Talk about it together with your spouse. Reminisce. Bring back the feelings you experienced on that day. After all, that day resulted in the next and the next and ultimately into a proposal, right? Go back in time. You'll see the passion once again make each other's eyes sparkle. Oh, the butterflies that day! Remember? Bring out the photos from the time you first met. Look at the way you looked at each other! Oh, the romance!
If you are a couple with children, you understand their needs take precedence over your own. This is how and when a couple's passion passes the wayside without realizing it. Remember, at first you're separate individuals with like interests which brought you together as a couple in the first place. Those interests were an essential aspect in your hearts uniting and wanting to spend your whole lives together. Remember? Remember? Good, that's a start! Surprise your spouse with a valentine's day card in August. Bring home flowers for no reason at all. Sneak up behind your spouse while making dinner or doing the laundry and kiss his/her neck. Spark the tingle that results in a passionate kiss (and maybe more!). Remind yourselves of the passion you shared spontaneously once upon a time ago!
Putting aside a date night is something you hear regularly. That too can become routine and boring. Instead, why not put together a bucket list and begin checking off all the items one by one together! What were your dreams when you became a couple? Did you dream of riding a hot air balloon? Learning how to kayak? Do you desire to learn how to water ski? What were your dreams? Dreams should be realized. They are everything you look forward to achieving. I'm not discussing becoming president in the company for which you work. Then again, have you dreamed of leaving the business enterprise and gone into business for yourselves? What's stopping you? Complacency, that's what!
If perhaps you were saying to yourself, "I want to save my marriage", take the bull by the horns and rekindle the spark. Considering that, isn't the spark what brought you together originally?
Do you remember your very first date together? Where was it? What did you do? What were you wearing? Was it raining, cold, sunny, could it have been warm? What made the day special? Talk about it together with your spouse. Reminisce. Bring back the feelings you experienced on that day. After all, that day resulted in the next and the next and ultimately into a proposal, right? Go back in time. You'll see the passion once again make each other's eyes sparkle. Oh, the butterflies that day! Remember? Bring out the photos from the time you first met. Look at the way you looked at each other! Oh, the romance!
If you are a couple with children, you understand their needs take precedence over your own. This is how and when a couple's passion passes the wayside without realizing it. Remember, at first you're separate individuals with like interests which brought you together as a couple in the first place. Those interests were an essential aspect in your hearts uniting and wanting to spend your whole lives together. Remember? Remember? Good, that's a start! Surprise your spouse with a valentine's day card in August. Bring home flowers for no reason at all. Sneak up behind your spouse while making dinner or doing the laundry and kiss his/her neck. Spark the tingle that results in a passionate kiss (and maybe more!). Remind yourselves of the passion you shared spontaneously once upon a time ago!
Putting aside a date night is something you hear regularly. That too can become routine and boring. Instead, why not put together a bucket list and begin checking off all the items one by one together! What were your dreams when you became a couple? Did you dream of riding a hot air balloon? Learning how to kayak? Do you desire to learn how to water ski? What were your dreams? Dreams should be realized. They are everything you look forward to achieving. I'm not discussing becoming president in the company for which you work. Then again, have you dreamed of leaving the business enterprise and gone into business for yourselves? What's stopping you? Complacency, that's what!
If perhaps you were saying to yourself, "I want to save my marriage", take the bull by the horns and rekindle the spark. Considering that, isn't the spark what brought you together originally?
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