Nov 9, 2011

Are There Books On Marriage That May Help Us Avoid Divorce?

By Will Scott


Statistics show that over 50-60% of all marriages will finish up in divorce. Sobering, isn't it? I only wish it were otherwise.

One reason for this is because young adults are foolish and marry too young. They think they fall completely in love with somebody in highschool or university and rush themselves into getting married. The problem with this is that people change and mature over their lives.

The person you fell head over heels in love with might not be the same person down the road. In fact , you can count on it.

Here's where lots of Problems stem from. However as many issues as there might be, as many changes as there may be, you continue to may love one another. It is during circumstances much like these that you could be searching for books on marriage that might help you fix your relationship problems.

There are plenty of ways that you can fix your marriage, with literally tons of tips out there. While I can't go through every one of them, I am able to list a few here to help you get on the right track, save your marriage and avoid divorce.

1. Communication. Communication is the single most vital aspect during any relationship. we don't have any way of knowing what's troubling people unless they let us know. It's also the same way for them. If you bottle up your feelings and do not talk about your issues, your spouse will have no idea there even is a problem.

These pent up emotions will wind up surfacing during an argument and finish up blindsiding your partner, leaving them hurt and confused. Avoid letting this happen, just talk with them and attempt to settle your issues before they spin out of control.

2. Compromise. Plenty of books on marriage will tell you that compromises are everything. You are two individuals, different people with different tastes. So you obviously will not agree on each single situation. Instead of arguing and fighting when you disagree, cool your head and attempt to come to a compromise that can make both you and your partner happy.

3. Stay calm and go slow. Fights sprout up in any relationship. Even the very best of friends will fight. The secret's to not let these fights spiral out of control and ruin your marriage. Keep your calm and ensure you do not say or do something that you will wind up regretting. When you try applying any fix to your marriage make sure you take them nice and slow, as rushing them can do more harm than good.

4. Forgive and forget. Know which hills to die on and when to make a strategic withdraw. Not every fight and debate needs to be some major production that gets brought up for months or years yet to come. Instead of sticking to past fights, pardon your spouse for any errors and allow yourself and your spouse to go on.

5. Marriage counseling. If all else fails, if tips don't help and all the books on marriage don't work, then you'll have to try going to a marriage advisor. These advisors are professionals, trained to help you mend your marriage and avoid divorce.




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