Nov 8, 2011

How to Win an Ex Boyfriend Back - 4 Steps to Bringing Back Love

By Mika Maddela


You may want to understand how to win your man back once the love and attraction is gone. These 4 simple steps will help you fan the flames that brought you and your ex together - even though he might already be dating another person.

The first step is to become a person he can trust. Be around him as much as humanly possible, let him know that you are available when he needs to get something off his chest. Do not be judgmental, do be open-minded - that's the key. Letting your ex know that he can open up and share his emotions and not be judged or made to feel worse when he shares his thoughts with you. Gaining true intimacy is paramount to bringing back your man.

Being open-minded and understanding is the second step, but don't put yourself in the position of being a pushover, do not let him use you for a doormat. You definitely don't really want to be seen as a person to be taken advantage of. That is what will occur if you appear very eager. Make it a point to allow him know how you are feeling about things, have some opinions. Don't come across as being harsh, but do tell him that you have ideas of your own, that you have emotions. Don't try to bend his thoughts and opinions to suit you, that is being harsh. Know the most significant difference between sharing your thoughts and being judgmental.

Remind him of the happy times - that's your third critical move. Winning a man back is easier if you remind him from time to time about the great times. Keeping those satisfying memories in mind will help him see why he was fond of you so much in the first place. One thing you completely don't want to do is bring up unahappy past times, that will only throw off your plans to get him back.

Telling him how you are feeling about him should be your fourth move. Do not be too effusive, too quickly. Make sure he is definitely starting to like you again before getting all gushy. The first 3 steps, if done right should be a simple method to win back his heart so that you can go on to step 4.

You'll know you've hit a home run if he starts flirting again, or checking you out when you are not looking. Often a guy will need a bit of help in this stage of the relationship, he would feel a little chagrined for ever leaving you in the first place. Help him out, help him save face. That is a crucial way to win a guy back. Make sure he knows, when the time is right, that you two make a great couple and it might be worth to try it again.

Take things slowly, be determined, and you will win your guy back. Do not think your work are for zilch, you have been planting enough positively charged thoughts in his head and he may come to think getting back together was his idea.

What if you just can't get the love back in your marriage? I know how hard it can be to try and make your spouse understand just how special your love is, but if you want to really make your relationship sing again, you'll need to learn a different strategy in saving your relationship.




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