Did Abraham Make A Colossal Mistake

By Margaret Hardisty

Most men would run to the rescue of their wives if they were ever in physical danger. Some may even bravely risk their death for their cherished wife. However, one of the greatest men of God who ever lived, Abraham, failed that very test.

If you aren't familiar with the Bible, it's time you were because we're seeing a lot of it acted out in today's current events. Abraham is the spiritual father of both today's Muslims and today's Jews. Yet, even though they are brothers, they also are sworn enemies. In fact, Iran's current president, Mahmoud Ahmadinejad, has sworn to obliterate Israel. He won't succeed, of course, because God has other events in mind, but he can cause a lot of mischief.

The hostility began to grow with Father Abraham, but we won't go into that part of it in this article. Instead, let's look at his betrayal of his wife. The man should have known better because by then, he was 75 years old. Moreover, in those days, women were looked upon as possessions, in most cases, rather than people to be honored and treated with respect. Come to think of it, there are men in civilizations in today's world that look at women as something beneath them.

Abraham (known then as Abram) lived a nomadic existence so had to move around a lot to feed his herds. On this one occasion, he gathered up his tents, his wife, Sarai (later to be named Sarah), his nephew, Lot, and his servants, and headed for Negeb - a tract of land that lay to the south in Palestine. Although arid, it was known for its rich pasture for cattle. When he got there, however, he was greeted by a famine. He altered his course and went to Egypt, instead, where he was about to tell a whopping big lie well, it almost was a whopper.

Sarai, Abraham's wife, was a most beautiful women, and was admired her features, even at a mature age. Just before the couple arrived into Egypt, Abraham told her, "I realize that you are a most beautiful woman to behold; and that when the Egyptians lay eyes on you, they will remark, 'This is his wife', after that though they will kill me but show mercy on you and will let you live. Say that you are my sister instead, that it may go over well with me and the Egyptians that my life may indeed be spared." Sarai agreed, as she was a loyal wife to her husband. What other choice did she have at that moment?

When they made an entrance into the country, sure enough, the woman caused a stir. King Pharaoh's princes investigated and were astonished at her beauty. Pharoah was informed. Delighted, he added her to his harem. He was so pleased with his newest wife (her mature age didn't make a bit of difference to him), that he gave Abraham gifts: sheep, oxen, donkeys, menservants, maidservants, and camels.

The whole dilemma got both men in trouble. God was not pleased. He had plans for Abraham and Sarai and he didn't want them messed up. The Almighty scourged the ruler of Egypt and his household with plagues, and made it clear to Pharaoh in a dream that he was a goner if he didn't let Sarai go.

"She's his wife?" Pharaoh screeched. "Bring that man here." Abraham, quaking in his sandals, was brought to stand before the royal throne. "What is this that you have done to me?" the king grated out between clenched teeth. "Why did you not tell me that she was your wife? Why did you say, she is my sister, so that I took her to be my wife? Take her and get away." She actually was his half-sister as well as his wife, but half a lie was no better than a full deception.

God sees everything we do and hears everything we say. We're even told in Scripture that he reads our thoughts. That's not a stretch. Think about it, Since the Creator of the universe hung this big ball that we live on in space with no strings attached to hold it up, and he causes birds to fly south in the winter and north in the summer, and he has designed our bodies with it's gazillion parts, reading our minds and hearing our thoughts has got to be a small thing for him.

Abraham knew at once that he had to leave. God forgave his sins and after some years advanced, a sheer miracle occurred. Sarai had become pregnant and gave birth to a little baby boy, Isaac, whose descendants are the very Jews of this day. The miracle is, as far as scholars of the bible can tell, that she likely was well into her nineties by that time.

Men are to be protectors and defenders of their wives, whom they are to cherish, honor, and love. We have a plethora of reasons for making said statement, and there's more to it than mere words, as you come to understand when you read through our material and books written just for husbands. These can help to assist you in understanding and utilizing ways to foster such a relationship with your own wife. Whatever state your marriage is currently in, this material can alleviate present troubles between the two of you, and replace them with attention, affection, care, and of course delight back into to your relationship.

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Good Luck - Bad Luck

By Margaret Hardisty

While riding in the Tour de France, Lance Armstrong was talking about trouble he and his team had on one occasion, which mentioned bad luck numerous times. I've always had an aversion to the word luck whether it's associated with bad or good. I suppose it was coined with the idea that's similar to what some of us say today: Life happens .Some things are simply out of our control.

The term bad luck has a flat out negative connotation, though, with the sentiment that, in a given situation, nothing can be changed, so it's better to shrug your shoulders and forget it - or acknowledge that you got a raw deal and someone ought to pay. The issue is, too many don't forget it and prefer to dwell on the raw deal part that eats away at their sense of wellbeing and happiness - sometimes for the remainder of their lives. They seek revenge.

Lots of things that happen to us, that are counted as bad luck, aren't that at all and we might as well stop trying to blame someone or something else and demand that others make it okay for us again. Most unpleasant things that happen to us as individuals are because we make bad choices.

It happens in marriage. A guy hooks up with his dream girl and she turns out not to be a dream, instead she turns out to be a nightmare. A woman adores the guy she teams up with and then discovers that there isn't much there to adore after all. Neither case is one of bad luck. Just a bad choice.

The human psyche is such that we can be very generous and forgiving - of ourselves - but very blaming and condemning of a spouse. The flaws in our mates glare out at us while our own faults take on a sugar coating. What would you say is the cause of that? Among other things, if we are honest with ourselves, we have to admit they come from immaturity, selfishness, spitefulness, past experiences - and more. Perhaps what we consider as bad luck or as bad choices in a marriage, then, is simply that we aren't living up to the responsibilities we should be to live as good wives or good husbands.

"The Hardisty's worked with hundreds of married couples. They've discovered many things over the years, but one is this: Most marriages, if both husband and wife are inclined to act maturely and unselfishly and change the route on which they've been walking, can be saved, improved, strengthened and made into a bit of heaven on earth.

They've seen so many success stories, along with Vance and his wife, and have prepared an entire system for men and another for women as well - of all ages - who want a peaceful, loving, fulfilling marriage. It's a Love Relationship System that twirls them around in the midst of their unhappiness like Dorothy in the flick, Wizard of Oz when she was caught up in a hurricane. Dorothy landed in the Land of Oz. Husbands and wives who follow our system land in a new and beautiful experience of love and appreciation of their partners.

James Dyson failed 5,126 times before he had an executable vacuum cleaner that didn't need bags to filter dust. You've seen the results of that - or perhaps you have one. The Dyson vacuums are those that are decorated in outrageously bright colors and seemingly, they're everywhere. He worked for five years around the clock to affirm his dream while his wife brought in the paycheck. Finally he hit pay dirt. Big time. It will not take five years for you to hit pay dirt in your marriage, and it will be worth every bit of effort you put into it. We're here to help you get rich in your love and relationship which outshines assuming material wealth a hundred percent.

Why should we care except to make a profit? We care because it's thrilling to see lives change, relationships flourish and families become strong and a mainstay of freedom. My husband for years has had the unpleasant task of assisting hundreds of clients through the divorce process as their attorney - until he decided he'd finally had it with the bickering and ugliness. Now he helps me to help countless people save their marriages rather than dissolve them. The results are so much more satisfying.

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Divorce Fallouts

By Margaret Haristy

Usually when two people marry they do wonderful things. They also make appalling mistakes. Good and bad experiences cause stress, regardless.

For some people, stress strengthens and helps their relationship to grow stronger and better. For others, stress hampers their ability to cope and they conclude that the problem must be that it is due to their marriage. That's when the rationalizations start rounding in their thoughts, such as: It was all wrong from the beginning - we weren't really in love - the person that would have made me happy is still running around out there - if only I hadn't... If only...if only.

Life is full of if-only's, what if's, why didn't I's, why did I's and every other reason we can come up with to excuse our bad behavior.. We all do that. And yet, many of those wrong choices we make, if we take a good hard look at them and put forth the right effort, actually bring about something better that wouldn't have happened otherwise.

Continuing to choose wrong choices, though, can become like the proverbial jumping out of the frying pan and into the fire. We see that a lot when there is a breakup and the newly-single ones start looking for that dream guy/woman that they missed the first go around.

Do I ever suggest divorce? Rarely. In extreme cases, I tell wives - or husbands - to take a break, using necessary caution to protect themselves, and do what they can to get their spouses to seek out professional help. Those are cases of: flagrant physical abuse; serial sexual adultery (think Tiger Woods); deliberate emotional and mental cruelty; desertion, or insanity that endangers the family. Then if the ones they distanced themselves from decide to call it quits, so be it.

If people are normal, however, divorce usually is one of the worst choices that they can make, for several reasons:

1) The fact that they once loved each other enough to promise to stay together no matter what, means that their love can be reinstated and their marriage saved. That's assuming that they know how to do it. We've gone into that in great detail in our books and other material written for men and books and material written for women. We've seen many marriages changed and saved as a result.

2) Third and fourth marriages have a far less chance of surviving than first marriages. The participants are attracted to the same type of person, essentially, and still haven't learned the bottom line lessons for making a marriage superb.

3) No matter how you rationalize it to make yourself feel better, the truth is: children of divorce always suffer, both seen and unseen, that I can't begin to touch upon them here.

4) Extended family suffers, as well. The awkwardness that comes from split families causes heartache and lots of problems.

5) Both parties suffer a great deal of emotional distress, one way or another. Marriage makes two people of one flesh, according to the Bible, and when a split occurs, even if it's a miserable union, it's as if half of you have been ripped out of your life.

6) Money problems are multiplied, whether you have money or not. Here are a few examples:

Chris's wife talked him into giving her the lion's share of what he had so that he had trouble buying gas to get to work.

Jasmine listened to her devious ex's pleas to move to the state he resided in, to be closer to their children. She did and because community property is not recognized in that state, she lost her right to receive alimony. Suddenly she was without funds and unable to get a job.

Elin Nordegren reportedly received a huge settlement from Tiger Woods. Despite the fact that he made some huge mistakes that caused the divorce, it must sting, a lot. His golf game was affected, as well as his relationship with his children.

If you are contemplating divorce or are in the process, stop right now. Find out why and correct it. Even if you are in the throes of thrill with the prospect of having someone new, trust us when we say - the thrill is temporary - and you likely will come out feeling much worse in the end, eventually, than you do now. Let us help you save your marriage and make it better than ever.

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So You Were Dumped. Get The Boyfriend Back in Your Life!?

By Chris Taylor

There are too many relationships that end in a nasty break up. Most adults experienced a break up at least one time in their life. This is just the harsh reality of some relationships and the opening up of our soul to a special person. A lot of couples who broke up learned to move on at one point with another person. Life goes on, give it up and move on is often the advice given. Is that always the case?

Sometimes, in the aftermath of breaking up, people feel that the love is still there. That looking back, all things considered, they cannot bear being without their ex. Will I survive? Is it worth searching for another love to fill the emptiness or is the ex the true love? You might find that the break up was a mistake as people give the breaking up advice. That just maybe you should not give up on it. Maybe it is not just you. Perhaps your other half feels the same way but is afraid to try again.

In reality, the majority of couples that split can be reunited, if you the right actions are taken. Sometimes it's a shot in the wind, but do you want to go through life without knowing what would have happened if you tried. Many people have and usually they live never knowing what could have been. Some did reunite much later in life, only to wish they had been together without the break in between. If you do decide to get him or her back, there are ways to do it.

1. Think back and recall what went wrong in the relationship. You can't change the past, but you can learn from your mistakes and be a better person for it. And if the ex was at fault you could learn to forgive him or her and give them a chance to better themselves.

2. Don't ever act needy or clingy. Needy and clingy is a sure sign of a desperate person. Desperation is unattractive and will always disgust whoever you are trying to impress, especially your ex. It may even cause him or her to move on and seek out another partner. Act confident, dress properly and keep yourself looking healthy.

3. Don't act weak and chase down your Ex. Let some time pass so that they began to wish you were around. And when time has passed, don't start yelling or reacting harshly to him or her. Just be calm. That calmness can be contagious and open up a mature, adult discussion. Then you both can talk it out, maybe even laugh about how silly the break up was.

On the other side you may discover that you two were not meant to be. Either way, you will now know what the outcome was. Either the door opened up to a lasting love or closure was found and now you can move on. But do try. Approach him or her with a greatattitude, full of hope, for sometimes it is meant to be.

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Everyone Is A Gift

By Margaret Hardisty

When you were born, you probably were a delight to your parents. Sure, there are people who don't want children and resent them from Day One; but they are a minority.

The motions that were set in place when the world was created still are in operation and have results and effects. If you have sex with someone, for instance, assuming you are heterosexual, there's a strong possibility that it will cause a pregnancy. So, despite the fact that the two principals involved might be totally unsuited for one another, they can make a baby.

If Dad-to-be decides he doesn't want the hassle of being a father and he doesn't want the woman, he may disappear. If he wants her but not the baby, he might suggest an abortion. Mom-to-be has to decide whether the child is an intrusion or not and if so, she has a law behind her that says it's okay to allow a doctor to obliterate that new life.

If they decide to do the honorable thing (despite their dishonorable deed of having sex outside of marriage), and get married (or not) then a huge mental shift has to take place. They are about to bring a human being into the world.If they do marry, have the child or more than one, and then decide to divorce because they have no interest in saving the marriage, then somewhere along the line one of the kids may ask: "What would have happened to us if Mommy and Daddy had never had us? We wouldn't have existed, right?"

I've had that question asked of me. Not from one of my children, because I've only been married one time and I am still married. My answer? "You would have been born to some other couple and lived in a different family. That's because you were planned long before the earth began."

So why would I say that? Because I have an authority I look to that says something amazing. It applies to every person ever born and comes to us through a famous King who put this vital message to music and sang it. I read it to a man, who was a stranger, who was sitting next to me on a bus once, because he asked me to do so. I was just returning from a book signing at a book store in another part of the state.

The King was David and for the entire text, read Psalm, Chapter 139 in the Old Testament of the Bible. I'll repeat only part of it here:

You formed my inward parts. You knit me together in my mother's womb. I am fearfully and wonderfully made; I was made in secret and skillfully wrought. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.

I smiled and said, "I'd hate to be one who ended a life like that."

"I...uh...own an abortion clinic," he said and then began to ask other questions. We talked throughout the ride, and the discussion's conclusion was this: God knows every person by name, looks and personality long before he or she is born. He has an eternal plan for that person. God's plan for every persons fouled up by their having sex outside of His directives; and since cause and effect already are in motion, the wrong couple can become parents.

If the couple entrusted with the life that has started to form in the womb, are not trustworthy, and the child suffers from whatever decisions they make, then someday that mother and father will have to give God an answer for what they have done.

The upshot of it was, the abortionist on the plane was intrigued. Furthermore, he asked me to go out with him after we got off the planeand in thefuture. I laughed and said, "No, I'm happily married and plan to keep it that way."

Every human being is a valuable treasure. As you look at your wife, your husband, your children and anyone you come across in life, view them with that in mind and treat them accordingly. And remember: it isn't God who has messed things up. It is the man and/or woman who choose not to have faith in Him, or not to do as He says who the culprit is. The blame can go to no one else.

Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com

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Marriage Counseling And The Options

By Micheille Tsunga

Stress and anxiety arise from many things; marriage is a huge one of them. Deciding to get help is a huge step people take and a scary thought for many of them. Marriage counseling is a choice that can be made in an effort to get things back on track. Conventional options are not all that is available today, now that we have the internet.

Physical and emotional problems can all be caused from stress that stems from marital problems. The inability to control feelings can cause a lot of damage as well. Many factors can cause these feelings within a marriage. Lack of intimacy, communication issues, these are just a few of them. Traditional routes of marriage counseling have been the only option until now.

There are tons of websites that offer this type of service. Save My Marriage Today is one such website. It offers the help that many are looking for at a fraction of the cost of other methods of counseling.

The author designed the Save My Marriage Today system to be easy for people to follow as well as practical. It has the interests of those people looking to get the relationship back to the fulfilling marriage that it was in the past. This is very appealing to those that have used it. The author designed the course after getting sick and tired of seeing good relationships go downhill and end in divorce. Having been a writer for many years on topics of love and relationships she has an abundance of insight into these things and created a system that has been proven to work.

She covers every comprehensible scenario in her E-course in an effort to get people back on the right path towards true happiness in their marriages. This puts marriage counseling in a whole new light. Without having to feel humiliation or embarrassment by talking to a stranger makes this such a nicer option for people that want to find a way to save what they have.

Lots of people have been helped with her system. More and more all the time are giving there opinions on the system that she developed. Not one has had negative results. This makes it even more appealing when you know that others have been aided with her assistance. Not to mention the lower pricing! This is only one of many options that are available regarding marriage counseling. Cruise the net and see what is there, you will be amazed!

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