Aug 6, 2011

Salvaging a Marriage

By Samantha Kate


People believe that getting married is the final game and that it means the ultimate security. What they do not know is when someone gets married; they come into a situation where they have to double their efforts to make the relationship work.

Aside from dealing with the relationship, they have to deal with getting their bills paid or raising their kids well. This is when resentment builds up. Little do they know, they have fallen into the trap where marriage is not blissful, anymore. But there is a way outside this trap. There is a way to save the marriage.

First, they must learn to pardon each other. Dwelling with issues of the past will do them no happiness. To be able to reconcile, they must have unified growth and start healing from the problems of the past. Letting go of any grudges would do great.

Second is to center on each other's happiness. Even if they both have careers to develop and maintain, they have to make sure that they find moments to date or spend some time alone together. Going on a date means remembering the passion that they once felt for each other before they got stuck up with all the problems.

They have to be very intimate with each other. Finding time in spite of the seriousness will maintain the passion and will also make sure that they continue their love for one another. Sleeping side by side is not even the same with real making love.

Marriage should not end because no one tried to rescue it. It should continue despite the troubles. And it will, if the partners find the guts to make sure that it doesn't. The key lies on the partners. If they really love each other, they will do the necessary things to make the bond continue.




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Aug 5, 2011

The Secrets to a Happy Marriage

By Samantha Kate


It is normal to think that getting marriage is the end game. In fact, many people think that tying a knot through legal papers can secure the relationship to last forever. However, they need more than those assumptions to maintain the marriage. Without consistent happiness fueled by understanding and commitment, a marriage can just end up under the drain along with other relationships that has been lead into the painful trauma of divorce.

But marriage does not have to end. There are methods in order to preserve the bliss in the bon, thus, assuring that each couple takes in the right amount of juice to continue forward. Here are two of the ways on how to go about it.

Share Domestic Chores. This one is very apparent. Sometimes, gender stereotypes get in the way of a relationship. Instead of doing the dishes, for example, the man assumes that it is the woman's work to do household chores like that. And this can extend to as easy as putting the used clothes on the right area or even sweeping the floor. Thus, couples should take force upon themselves to discuss the sharing of tasks, no matter how out of character it is for one to do. That's the advantage of cooperation.

Maintain the Passion. To be able to make sure that both couples still have that love for each other, they must go on dates as regularly as possible and stroke each other whenever they can. Even if they think that being together all the time, with kids and other family members around, can recompense for those alone time, they can't take away the fact that having a moment to each other, where they can show the same fervor as they had when they weren't married, is something to look forward to. Keeping the shake of emotion, tickling the arousal moments, can keep them enticed with each other, even if they already have children.

With the simple efforts cited, marriage can maintain to be hurt and pain free, and can extend the bliss without a need for struggles.




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Aug 4, 2011

3 Things That Successful Couples Do to Keep Their Marriage Strong

By Sarah Scott


Having Realistic Expectations

Many relationships nowadays have one person with unrealistic expectations for their partner. Some high expectations are so high that you're setting your partner up to not meet your expectations. Here are some common expectations that many people have for their spouse or relationship.

-In a successful relationship, there is no conflicts whatsoever

-My better half will know exactly what's on my mind without me having to point out anything

-Our relationship will forever be exciting, romantic, and full of excitment (just like in the movies)

-My partner will always cook me dinner when I come home from work

-My better half will always do things that may please me

-My partner will always need to spend each waking moment with me

These are some common marriage expectations that people often make in long term relationship. Do any of these appear practical? Do not forget that by having high expectations for your partner, you are setting them up to fail. No one is perfect. Having said that there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. Committed relationships takes difficult work and effort to keep the love alive in your relationship. Reevaluate your expectations with your other half. Are they also high? Are they realistically possible? If that is the case your irrational expectations may be damaging your relationship.

Do You Make Compromises?

Do you and your other half make compromises? Having the ability to make compromises is crucial when it comes to a healthy marriage. Your partner can't always be the one bending backwards for you without you giving anything in exchange. This can mean anything from who's turn it is to pick the flick, pick the toppings on the pizza to sacrificing your time to do your spouse's favorite hobby. Successful couples make sacrifices for one another because they love each other. Make sure that every individual in a relationship is making compromises.

Do You Help Your Spouse Foster Their Self image?

Some people may not notice how unsupportive they're until it's too late. Does your spouse have a dream or a goal and you're not being supportive? There's nothing more critical for a husband or a woman to have their love one by their side when they are going through a new and scary part in their life. Do you cheer your partner on when he or she wishes it the most? Your support will help your other half build confidence and self confidence. Keeping a lookout for each other's general well-being is so critical when it comes having a successful relationship.

If you and your other half have been together for some time, it isn't unusual to see couples who's hit a speed bump in their marriage. Committed relationships has it's ups and downs (and sometimes plateaus.) It's how you respond that's so important to making it work. Keep these things mentioned above in consideration if you're going through a rough patch in your marriage. It could very well keep your marriage going.




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Aug 3, 2011

Get Ex Back - It is Simpler than You Think It is

By Dmitry Vasenyov


If you ask anyone who has been in a relationship, they will surely tell you that they are not easy. Of course, there are a lot of good times as well as great things that can come out of them, but still relationships are defined by how you handle the problems that can arise. Frankly speaking, when a relationship ends one party involved will want to know how to get ex back.

If you have recently broken up with an ex, then your emotions are more likely flying all over the place. During the first few days after a breakup you have to let nature run its course. It is a good idea to keep your distance from your ex while you are taking some time to calm down. When you have gotten your emotions in check, it is time to do the step that will set you up for the success with how to get ex back.

After about a week of soul searching, you can contact your ex and tell him or her how you feel. But, you do not have to go overboard and start begging or crying to them. The last thing for you to do is to sound clingy or needy.

Instead of this, it is necessary to tell your ex how you feel in a calm voice. When you have done this you have to back off. Again do not have any further contact with them for a couple of weeks. During this period you have to get back to being yourself. It is recommended for you to go out with your friends and have fun.

That will get back to your ex that you are out and having fun and they will wonder what is going on. Your ex will wonder why you are not waiting around for their call. And thus this will create a new interest in you and will bring them back around.




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Aug 2, 2011

What a Husband Must Learn When It Comes To Winning Back His Other half

By Sarah Scott


Women are picky creatures and yet men still love them. The majority of the time when a woman is mador upset at you, it isn't what you are think it's for.

It's commonly generalized in western society that women are a bag of feelings and men are depicted as giant unconcerned "oafs". Males and females can disagree on their view points of one another. I just know that women and men have different perceptions, thus different behaviors. This is when both sexes frequently appear to bump heads.

Many times, your wife won't communicate what she precisely feels and when you can't guess right what she's thinking, then you are in the "dog house." This is when you should begin to practice being more conscious of what is essentially going on around you. Does your wife do a lot of things for you that may be overlooked?

Here's where coming into awareness can really help you "wake up" to no matter what your wife feels you are not ignoring. When you both come back home from work, do you kick your feet up and relax while she prepares dinner, put the kids to bed, do mundane chores and clean the house? What you need to do is help her feel cherished, loved, appreciated and valued.

Be conscious of the things she does for you, even if you should happen to feel they're minor (like folding your underwear).

Bear in mind there are 3 things that most women desire.

1. Romance in their lives.

They'd like to feel cherished and loved. OK, we all know that deep down, women love to be romanced. They get romantic concepts of being swept off her feet. Everybody has a different perception of what love looks like but show your other half your romantic side. It doesn't have to be grand like what you see on TV. Again, the media does not help when it comes to realistic ideas of romance. You may be shocked at how a small romantic gesture can soften her up.

2. Feeling part of a great journey

Whatever you and your wife's story is, she wants to feel valued and cherished. Whether you and your wife's life consist of raising 3 kids and both work full time careers or traveling around the planet, your wife wants to feel appreciated and valued. When was the last time you embraced your better half and told her many thanks or that she is vital to you? If It's it hasbeen a long time, you should start today and begin showing your appreciation.

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3. To create beauty.

Why do girls put on makeup or wear jewelery, take up yoga, meditate, and agonized about their weight? Because girls want to feel stunning on the outside as well as on the inside. Do you help your other half feel lovely or at least let her know so? Do you give her compliments on how she looks or maybe notice the new outfit she is sporting? If not, this is another example of not being in awareness with your spouse.




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Aug 1, 2011

How to Defeat Fear of Marriage

By Samantha Kate


Many people think that marriage is a gate to an unending experience of trials and struggles. People who are terrified of it are scared of commitment because they know that it includes experiencing unhappy moments aside from the blissful ones.

But why do others prefer to get married despite the constant challenge, anyway? It is because marriage is a bond between two people who love each other and who are willing to spend the rest of their lived together. For many, getting married is sealing the relationship, securing that it lasts until death do they part.

So how do people, with fear of marriage, conquer their anxiety with promise? The task is not that easy because it needs a huge sense of self-assessment. While it may take time and effort, it is essential to evaluate ones fear of marriages. If you are one who needs this, read through.

Identify what makes you afraid of marriage. Is it because you have witnessed so many failed ones? Are you afraid of pain so much that you would not risk anything just so you can escape from it? Well, sadly, pain is everywhere in this world.

Tackle your fears and converse it over with your partner. There is a reason why you are so afraid of marriage even if you want to get settled down. By communicating those fears with your husband to be, you are finding a way for someone to help you with it. Who knows, he might promise you of something that would make you change your mind about commitments.

Those are just a few tips that you can do. If you just try and make an effort to overcome fear, you will succeed in it. Of course, this goes without saying that you should already have found the ideal man to marry. Yes, there are perfect men and there are assholes. If you gut feel tells you that you're just going to get hurt if you marry your current boyfriend, then you just have to end the relationship while it is early.




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Jul 31, 2011

How To Save Your Marriage

By Samantha Kate


When you switched vows with your wife, you promised to stay true to one another, through thick and thin. You vowed never to be departed until death parts you away from each other. But there are inevitable moments when problems get into your blissful marriage. Money, children and intimacy are just some of the factors that take out the passion. Little do you know that you are chasing from the connection that you once had before. Before you fall into a state where you want to get annulled or divorce, do these things in order to save your marriage.

1. Instead of communicating through phone calls or instant messages, make a time when you two would just sit beside each other and talk about your day. That will reestablish the initiate moments that you two once treasured.

2. After restarting the communication without technology, recall the passion you have for one another by sending sweet letters where you profess each other's love. Try to make this as random or unpredictable as you can. It will be sweeter that way.

3. Ask your wife for dinner. You might not find time to engage anymore because you think that you are already together all the time, anyway. But a real date is special. With it, you can start dressing up for each other and go out for dinner where both of you can amaze each other.

The solution really is just to make your wife the number one concern of your life. Work and children can take out most of your time, and you may end up overlooking that you also have a bond with your wife, but bear in mind that before you had a family, you only had each other. Being in a marriage may be about managing all the important things in your life but it also means allowing your wife to juggle them with you. So make sure that you do.




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