Apr 25, 2012

Find Out The Best Ways To Save My Marriage Today

By Greg Deetz


So many married individuals going through rough times will have this dilemma: Shall I save my marriage today or shall I wait until tomorrow? You might think that this is an irrelevant question because you will genuinely want to redeem your marriage now. Tomorrow may be too late to mend the damage to your marriage.


Others, however, will say that it is better to wait until tomorrow for many reasons. The treatment of any marital problems while passions still run high-pitched can effect in destructive arguments instead of constructive fights. So, it may be better to wait until tomorrow when passions have cooled.


The riddle then is: Which is the correct manner to the question of shall I save my marriage today or wait till tomorrow? Let's put it this way: Both have its pros and cons such that your pick invariably boils down to your personal preferences. You must also consider more factors like the root cause, possible affect and possible solutions of the marital problem before devising your choice.


Pros of Today If you select to save your marriage today, which means that you will settle whatever marital issue is threatening to destroy your marriage as soon as it happens, then you will enjoy the benefits of quick action. Unresolved issues are akin to festering sores that begin as small wounds and then grow worse when left unattended for too long. These festering sores can taint the marriage like sepsis - silent but lethal.


But if you act on the marital issues as soon as these appear, you have higher chances of healing these little wounds even before these can become festering sores. Keep in mind that it is ofttimes best to treat small problems on a daily basis rather than waiting for the problems to blow out of proportion by waiting until tomorrow and then another tomorrow.


Cons of Today But while you act on your "save my marriage today" plan, you may also be encountering passionate emotions that contribute to destructive arguments - as previously mentioned. Consider of this scenario: Your partner just found out that you were having a long-term adulterous affair. You could want to immediately talk to your spouse but emotions are running too high, tensions are still too tight, and everything just seems prepared to burst.


You will be doing more damage than good if you act now. Merely let your spouse alone for a while until he/she is ready to talk about what happened. When your spouse has taken improved control of his/her emotions, you can then talk about what happened without the worry of hysterics. This time, your best bet was to forfeit immediate action - save my marriage today - and to wait for a little while until things appear to settle down a bit. No matter which course of action you will take, you must remember that there are effective ways to save your marriage, be it now or tomorrow. Talk in an honorable and sincere way. Quit blaming each other.


Recognize your faults and apologize. Act on regaining each other's trust, love and value. Adopt a reconciliation system. See a marriage counselor, if you have to.


You will find that it does not matter as much as which track you go to -save my marriage today or tomorrow - for as long as you are willing to save your marriage, period.






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