Having Realistic Expectations
Many relationships nowadays have one person with unrealistic expectations for their partner. Some high expectations are so high that you're setting your partner up to not meet your expectations. Here are some common expectations that many people have for their spouse or relationship.
-In a successful relationship, there is no conflicts whatsoever
-My better half will know exactly what's on my mind without me having to point out anything
-Our relationship will forever be exciting, romantic, and full of excitment (just like in the movies)
-My partner will always cook me dinner when I come home from work
-My better half will always do things that may please me
-My partner will always need to spend each waking moment with me
These are some common marriage expectations that people often make in long term relationship. Do any of these appear practical? Do not forget that by having high expectations for your partner, you are setting them up to fail. No one is perfect. Having said that there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. Committed relationships takes difficult work and effort to keep the love alive in your relationship. Reevaluate your expectations with your other half. Are they also high? Are they realistically possible? If that is the case your irrational expectations may be damaging your relationship.
Do You Make Compromises?
Do you and your other half make compromises? Having the ability to make compromises is crucial when it comes to a healthy marriage. Your partner can't always be the one bending backwards for you without you giving anything in exchange. This can mean anything from who's turn it is to pick the flick, pick the toppings on the pizza to sacrificing your time to do your spouse's favorite hobby. Successful couples make sacrifices for one another because they love each other. Make sure that every individual in a relationship is making compromises.
Do You Help Your Spouse Foster Their Self image?
Some people may not notice how unsupportive they're until it's too late. Does your spouse have a dream or a goal and you're not being supportive? There's nothing more critical for a husband or a woman to have their love one by their side when they are going through a new and scary part in their life. Do you cheer your partner on when he or she wishes it the most? Your support will help your other half build confidence and self confidence. Keeping a lookout for each other's general well-being is so critical when it comes having a successful relationship.
If you and your other half have been together for some time, it isn't unusual to see couples who's hit a speed bump in their marriage. Committed relationships has it's ups and downs (and sometimes plateaus.) It's how you respond that's so important to making it work. Keep these things mentioned above in consideration if you're going through a rough patch in your marriage. It could very well keep your marriage going.
Many relationships nowadays have one person with unrealistic expectations for their partner. Some high expectations are so high that you're setting your partner up to not meet your expectations. Here are some common expectations that many people have for their spouse or relationship.
-In a successful relationship, there is no conflicts whatsoever
-My better half will know exactly what's on my mind without me having to point out anything
-Our relationship will forever be exciting, romantic, and full of excitment (just like in the movies)
-My partner will always cook me dinner when I come home from work
-My better half will always do things that may please me
-My partner will always need to spend each waking moment with me
These are some common marriage expectations that people often make in long term relationship. Do any of these appear practical? Do not forget that by having high expectations for your partner, you are setting them up to fail. No one is perfect. Having said that there's no such thing as a perfect marriage. Committed relationships takes difficult work and effort to keep the love alive in your relationship. Reevaluate your expectations with your other half. Are they also high? Are they realistically possible? If that is the case your irrational expectations may be damaging your relationship.
Do You Make Compromises?
Do you and your other half make compromises? Having the ability to make compromises is crucial when it comes to a healthy marriage. Your partner can't always be the one bending backwards for you without you giving anything in exchange. This can mean anything from who's turn it is to pick the flick, pick the toppings on the pizza to sacrificing your time to do your spouse's favorite hobby. Successful couples make sacrifices for one another because they love each other. Make sure that every individual in a relationship is making compromises.
Do You Help Your Spouse Foster Their Self image?
Some people may not notice how unsupportive they're until it's too late. Does your spouse have a dream or a goal and you're not being supportive? There's nothing more critical for a husband or a woman to have their love one by their side when they are going through a new and scary part in their life. Do you cheer your partner on when he or she wishes it the most? Your support will help your other half build confidence and self confidence. Keeping a lookout for each other's general well-being is so critical when it comes having a successful relationship.
If you and your other half have been together for some time, it isn't unusual to see couples who's hit a speed bump in their marriage. Committed relationships has it's ups and downs (and sometimes plateaus.) It's how you respond that's so important to making it work. Keep these things mentioned above in consideration if you're going through a rough patch in your marriage. It could very well keep your marriage going.
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