When you were born, you probably were a delight to your parents. Sure, there are people who don't want children and resent them from Day One; but they are a minority.
The motions that were set in place when the world was created still are in operation and have results and effects. If you have sex with someone, for instance, assuming you are heterosexual, there's a strong possibility that it will cause a pregnancy. So, despite the fact that the two principals involved might be totally unsuited for one another, they can make a baby.
If Dad-to-be decides he doesn't want the hassle of being a father and he doesn't want the woman, he may disappear. If he wants her but not the baby, he might suggest an abortion. Mom-to-be has to decide whether the child is an intrusion or not and if so, she has a law behind her that says it's okay to allow a doctor to obliterate that new life.
If they decide to do the honorable thing (despite their dishonorable deed of having sex outside of marriage), and get married (or not) then a huge mental shift has to take place. They are about to bring a human being into the world.If they do marry, have the child or more than one, and then decide to divorce because they have no interest in saving the marriage, then somewhere along the line one of the kids may ask: "What would have happened to us if Mommy and Daddy had never had us? We wouldn't have existed, right?"
I've had that question asked of me. Not from one of my children, because I've only been married one time and I am still married. My answer? "You would have been born to some other couple and lived in a different family. That's because you were planned long before the earth began."
So why would I say that? Because I have an authority I look to that says something amazing. It applies to every person ever born and comes to us through a famous King who put this vital message to music and sang it. I read it to a man, who was a stranger, who was sitting next to me on a bus once, because he asked me to do so. I was just returning from a book signing at a book store in another part of the state.
The King was David and for the entire text, read Psalm, Chapter 139 in the Old Testament of the Bible. I'll repeat only part of it here:
You formed my inward parts. You knit me together in my mother's womb. I am fearfully and wonderfully made; I was made in secret and skillfully wrought. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
I smiled and said, "I'd hate to be one who ended a life like that."
"I...uh...own an abortion clinic," he said and then began to ask other questions. We talked throughout the ride, and the discussion's conclusion was this: God knows every person by name, looks and personality long before he or she is born. He has an eternal plan for that person. God's plan for every persons fouled up by their having sex outside of His directives; and since cause and effect already are in motion, the wrong couple can become parents.
If the couple entrusted with the life that has started to form in the womb, are not trustworthy, and the child suffers from whatever decisions they make, then someday that mother and father will have to give God an answer for what they have done.
The upshot of it was, the abortionist on the plane was intrigued. Furthermore, he asked me to go out with him after we got off the planeand in thefuture. I laughed and said, "No, I'm happily married and plan to keep it that way."
Every human being is a valuable treasure. As you look at your wife, your husband, your children and anyone you come across in life, view them with that in mind and treat them accordingly. And remember: it isn't God who has messed things up. It is the man and/or woman who choose not to have faith in Him, or not to do as He says who the culprit is. The blame can go to no one else.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
The motions that were set in place when the world was created still are in operation and have results and effects. If you have sex with someone, for instance, assuming you are heterosexual, there's a strong possibility that it will cause a pregnancy. So, despite the fact that the two principals involved might be totally unsuited for one another, they can make a baby.
If Dad-to-be decides he doesn't want the hassle of being a father and he doesn't want the woman, he may disappear. If he wants her but not the baby, he might suggest an abortion. Mom-to-be has to decide whether the child is an intrusion or not and if so, she has a law behind her that says it's okay to allow a doctor to obliterate that new life.
If they decide to do the honorable thing (despite their dishonorable deed of having sex outside of marriage), and get married (or not) then a huge mental shift has to take place. They are about to bring a human being into the world.If they do marry, have the child or more than one, and then decide to divorce because they have no interest in saving the marriage, then somewhere along the line one of the kids may ask: "What would have happened to us if Mommy and Daddy had never had us? We wouldn't have existed, right?"
I've had that question asked of me. Not from one of my children, because I've only been married one time and I am still married. My answer? "You would have been born to some other couple and lived in a different family. That's because you were planned long before the earth began."
So why would I say that? Because I have an authority I look to that says something amazing. It applies to every person ever born and comes to us through a famous King who put this vital message to music and sang it. I read it to a man, who was a stranger, who was sitting next to me on a bus once, because he asked me to do so. I was just returning from a book signing at a book store in another part of the state.
The King was David and for the entire text, read Psalm, Chapter 139 in the Old Testament of the Bible. I'll repeat only part of it here:
You formed my inward parts. You knit me together in my mother's womb. I am fearfully and wonderfully made; I was made in secret and skillfully wrought. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed.
I smiled and said, "I'd hate to be one who ended a life like that."
"I...uh...own an abortion clinic," he said and then began to ask other questions. We talked throughout the ride, and the discussion's conclusion was this: God knows every person by name, looks and personality long before he or she is born. He has an eternal plan for that person. God's plan for every persons fouled up by their having sex outside of His directives; and since cause and effect already are in motion, the wrong couple can become parents.
If the couple entrusted with the life that has started to form in the womb, are not trustworthy, and the child suffers from whatever decisions they make, then someday that mother and father will have to give God an answer for what they have done.
The upshot of it was, the abortionist on the plane was intrigued. Furthermore, he asked me to go out with him after we got off the planeand in thefuture. I laughed and said, "No, I'm happily married and plan to keep it that way."
Every human being is a valuable treasure. As you look at your wife, your husband, your children and anyone you come across in life, view them with that in mind and treat them accordingly. And remember: it isn't God who has messed things up. It is the man and/or woman who choose not to have faith in Him, or not to do as He says who the culprit is. The blame can go to no one else.
Margaret Hardisty International Best Selling Author and Speaker Love Relationship Headquarters www.loverelationshipheadquarters.com
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