Nov 23, 2011

Discover If the Emotions You're Experiencing Is Part of a Phase in Your Marriage

By Clay Andrews


In long term relationships and marriages, a growing distance between each couples is a common occurrence. It can be very heartbreaking to think your relationship is losing it's spark and to be constantly doubting whether you and your spouse belong together is not easy.

In a start of a relationship, everything is fresh and exciting. This is called the "Honeymoon" phase and it can last between a couple of months to 2-3 years (it changes with each couple.) This phase is awfully exciting, passionate and romantically ecstatic. Finally after being together for quite some time, you and your partner will start to see details about each other that you may not have seen in the beginning of the relationship. This is a phase when your relationship becomes deeper on a more intimate level.

At this point, you and your partner may or may not be living together but when you as a couple share personal space, that's when you begin to see certain habits you have not spotted before and could have conflicts that will shatter your faith in your relationship. Also at about that point you and your spouse begin to make stage-changing calls together like buying an auto, house. Sharing bank accounts or getting married.

Here's where many ladies or men start to question their relationship. At about that point, your relationship is a harsh contrast to the thrilling and fresh honeymoon phase. You know you love your spouse, but you ask why your relationship isn't as simple as it used to be. That's because you both are going through a different phase in your relationship that may require effort and work to cultivate your love.

Here is where you and your partner are going to have to find an efficient way to deal with conflicts and strengthen your relationship. At this point, your relationship may get a touch more hard to keep together. You and your other half fight a little more and your relationship may go through a turbulence of mix feelings. This is when you question whether you and your spouse should be together.

This is a tough stage because it's so different to relationship bliss you had at the start stages of your relationship. This is when many marriages fail. Unless you can find a better way to coping with conflicts and intense situations. Couples that make it through this stage comes out stronger than before. They have developed abilities to better communicate, compromise and resolve conflicts.

What you're feeling is extremely normal and it does not mean you've fallen out of love with your spouse and that your marriage is headed for trouble. It just means that you and your spouse are going through a certain phase that may give your relationship an opportunity to grow and reach it's actual potential.

What if you just can't get the love back in your marriage? I know how hard it can be to try and make your spouse understand just how special your love is, but if you want to really make your marriage sing again you'll need to learn that you can't use the same strategy you've been using in the past.




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