Jul 10, 2011

Tips To Save A Marriage

By James Reed


Do you want a happy marriage? It takes work to achieve that. Probably by now you have already realized that not everything in real life can be like those you read in romantic novels or even in fairy tales. Seldom do we meet a dashing prince charming, but nevertheless we do meet the one we love. Marriage is a relationship you need to work on from the moment you wake up in the morning to before you sleep at night. But sadly that is something that many couples tend to forget.

Learn To Listen

There is a big difference between hearing and listening, the thing is most couples do the former. When you hear you are just aware of the sound that your partner makes. But when you listen, now that is more important, you take the time to understand what the other person is talking about. You listen and you want to know what is being told you. Often this is the key to a successful marriage because with listening you know what are the problems in your marriage even before it starts to become a problem.

Learn To Be More Understanding

Marriage is a relationship and so it simply means there are at least two people who are involved in it (not counting the kids). There are two personalities that every now and then would clash and collide. How can you avoid such a thing to happen? By being a bit more understanding to what your partner needs, wants, and is trying to say to you. Any marriage help will tell you that. Be more open to his or her requests and accept that people change as the years go by.

Be Positive

Do not let negative thoughts enter your mind as it will gravely affect the way you look at your marriage. Often there is no good time to be a skeptic. It is however always a great idea to always look forward to something good in anything that is happening in your relationship.

Always Give A Shoulder To Cry On

When you want to know how to save a marriage, it will take both your efforts to fix it. If you need to take some leave off of work so that you can spend quality time with your partner then do so. Spending quality time is very important when fixing a marriage as this is the time you can bond with each other and make up for lost time.

Calm Yourself

When a fight is brewing, you have to stay calm even if your partner is saying things left and right. If you fight, the situation will just worsen and might lead to a something worst. Lower your pride, lower your voice and lessen the tension that you are feeling. Keep calm by taking deep and long breaths and clear your mind. You have been fighting for quite a while which has added to the weakening of your marriage. Don't be swayed by anger but fix things in a proper way.




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