So that's it, you've strayed; you've gone and done a mess of things by having an affair with your young, attractive secretary and are feeling guilty as hell about it. What's worse is, though, at that time, you thought you were doing the right thing by confiding in your wife about it, you couldn't regret it more now, because things have never been worse at home. Does this scenario sound familiar?
Help Is Here
If so, then you're at the right place. If you want to find the best and most hassle free way of ending your affair and saving your marriage, then this article is just the thing for you. So what should you do when you're in a situation like this?
Let's face it; every counselor will tell you that you should "talk things through" with your spouse, but hey, that only happens when your spouse is ready to talk to you, right? And in a situation like this, more often than not, your wife doesn't even want to see your face, let alone talk to you! So what do you do? You show her, through your actions, how sorry you are.
Yeah, that's right. You need to show your wife that you are truly sorry for your actions and you are ready to make an effort, extend an olive branch. Sure, at the outset, she'll spurn all your advances. She'll make you feel worse and worse, resentful even, but ultimately, she might just cave in. No, don't think all will be forgiven. But she might just be willing and ready to talk it out with you.
That's when you grab the opportunity and tell her how much of a scum bag you were and how sorry you are for the entire affair. But also be quick to point out that you didn't just stray for no reason. Point out to her, that she just wasn't giving enough to your relationship or whatever the reason may be. That way, you will have your self respect intact. Give her the plain truth, don't dress it up, because later on, you might end up feeling bad about it yourself.
What To Do
When you first start talking to each other, make sure you go through the details, no matter how painful it may be. In fact, mentally prepare yourself for just such an experience. This will strengthen you as people. Try a three pronged approach to healing the damage that your relationship has undergone:
* Give your wife time to sort herself out.
* Figure out why you strayed in the first place.
* Re - build the trust.
That's what lies at the base of every reconciliation process and you have to go through it. It will be painful at first, but at the end of it, you'll be glad you went through all that pain.
Help Is Here
If so, then you're at the right place. If you want to find the best and most hassle free way of ending your affair and saving your marriage, then this article is just the thing for you. So what should you do when you're in a situation like this?
Let's face it; every counselor will tell you that you should "talk things through" with your spouse, but hey, that only happens when your spouse is ready to talk to you, right? And in a situation like this, more often than not, your wife doesn't even want to see your face, let alone talk to you! So what do you do? You show her, through your actions, how sorry you are.
Yeah, that's right. You need to show your wife that you are truly sorry for your actions and you are ready to make an effort, extend an olive branch. Sure, at the outset, she'll spurn all your advances. She'll make you feel worse and worse, resentful even, but ultimately, she might just cave in. No, don't think all will be forgiven. But she might just be willing and ready to talk it out with you.
That's when you grab the opportunity and tell her how much of a scum bag you were and how sorry you are for the entire affair. But also be quick to point out that you didn't just stray for no reason. Point out to her, that she just wasn't giving enough to your relationship or whatever the reason may be. That way, you will have your self respect intact. Give her the plain truth, don't dress it up, because later on, you might end up feeling bad about it yourself.
What To Do
When you first start talking to each other, make sure you go through the details, no matter how painful it may be. In fact, mentally prepare yourself for just such an experience. This will strengthen you as people. Try a three pronged approach to healing the damage that your relationship has undergone:
* Give your wife time to sort herself out.
* Figure out why you strayed in the first place.
* Re - build the trust.
That's what lies at the base of every reconciliation process and you have to go through it. It will be painful at first, but at the end of it, you'll be glad you went through all that pain.
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