The very basic element before saving a relationship is to know if it is worth it in the first place. Are you still in love with each other? If you'll both say yes to that question, then, what are you waiting for? Do something and save your relationship.
If you have built a doubt wall between the two of you, get rid of it now. It will only just divide you farther apart. You should both forget the things that have brought you into this kind of situation to be able to make things work. Start over again with a clean slate. Be optimistic that it will work out just fine this time.
Time is of vital role in this whole issue. Your relationship did not get rough overnight and so you can neither fix nor treat it on an overnight basis too. It will take some time. You need to be prepared for that. But the sooner you try to fix things, the better.
Then try to look at the whole situation in your partner's point of view. Seeing everything in a new perspective will help you see through what's really been affecting your relationship. However, too often when things starts to get rough and cease running the way we want it, we then think it is time for survival mode. That's when everything becomes unsuitable. We just think of ourselves that we forget it should be teamwork. No relationship can survive if teamwork is not present.
The perfect way to get your partner's perspective on things is to sit down with him or her and talk. Never ever presume that you know everything as that could only make things worst once you're wrong.
Then when inviting your partner for a talk, set aside your ego or pride first. If you have to leave it on your door or locked it somewhere, do it. Remember the saying, "Pride goeth before the fall". Unless you want the relationship to fall, you will make up your mind and choose saving your relationship than keeping your pride.
Then, during the actual conversation, setting up the ground rule is very vital. The first rule should be, let your partner express how he or she really feels about your relationship. Show him or her respect for you to get the same thing from him or her. Never interrupt when your partner is still talking. Patiently wait for your turn and stay focus on things that are relevant. Take down notes if necessary.
Be certain to stay calm and collected as much as possible. Never get furious easily about what your partner has to say. The only thing that could make everything possible is to leave all the hurt, anger, frustrations and unpleasant feelings behind your door.
Do not leave anything unresolved. Whatever the issues, make sure to talk about it. If that would mean having more talk session, do it. Anything that would be left behind will just attack the both of you. It will just poison the blood that supplies oxygen into your relationship. If you will let that spread into the entire system then your relationship will certainly die.
Saving a relationship is not that easy.it requires time coupled with efforts on both parties. Giving time and effort on working things out will just show how committed you are with each other. And that will make your relationship a lot stronger than yesterday.
If you have built a doubt wall between the two of you, get rid of it now. It will only just divide you farther apart. You should both forget the things that have brought you into this kind of situation to be able to make things work. Start over again with a clean slate. Be optimistic that it will work out just fine this time.
Time is of vital role in this whole issue. Your relationship did not get rough overnight and so you can neither fix nor treat it on an overnight basis too. It will take some time. You need to be prepared for that. But the sooner you try to fix things, the better.
Then try to look at the whole situation in your partner's point of view. Seeing everything in a new perspective will help you see through what's really been affecting your relationship. However, too often when things starts to get rough and cease running the way we want it, we then think it is time for survival mode. That's when everything becomes unsuitable. We just think of ourselves that we forget it should be teamwork. No relationship can survive if teamwork is not present.
The perfect way to get your partner's perspective on things is to sit down with him or her and talk. Never ever presume that you know everything as that could only make things worst once you're wrong.
Then when inviting your partner for a talk, set aside your ego or pride first. If you have to leave it on your door or locked it somewhere, do it. Remember the saying, "Pride goeth before the fall". Unless you want the relationship to fall, you will make up your mind and choose saving your relationship than keeping your pride.
Then, during the actual conversation, setting up the ground rule is very vital. The first rule should be, let your partner express how he or she really feels about your relationship. Show him or her respect for you to get the same thing from him or her. Never interrupt when your partner is still talking. Patiently wait for your turn and stay focus on things that are relevant. Take down notes if necessary.
Be certain to stay calm and collected as much as possible. Never get furious easily about what your partner has to say. The only thing that could make everything possible is to leave all the hurt, anger, frustrations and unpleasant feelings behind your door.
Do not leave anything unresolved. Whatever the issues, make sure to talk about it. If that would mean having more talk session, do it. Anything that would be left behind will just attack the both of you. It will just poison the blood that supplies oxygen into your relationship. If you will let that spread into the entire system then your relationship will certainly die.
Saving a relationship is not that easy.it requires time coupled with efforts on both parties. Giving time and effort on working things out will just show how committed you are with each other. And that will make your relationship a lot stronger than yesterday.
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