Dec 15, 2010

Save The Marriage: Let Your Partner Know

By Frank M. Janis


Marriage is hallowed by the society as a sacred bond between two people who wants to share themselves to each other and spend their lives together. But then sometimes, this becomes a little difficult for some especially when the problems start coming in. Couples often find trouble in settling their differences, and at one point, they arrive at the inevitable moment when they would have to save the marriage.

Realizing that your relationship with your significant other is starting to fall apart is the most vital part in saving your relationship. Awareness of your current condition is of the essence when it comes to getting any half of the couple to initiate and save the marriage. In doing so, you should not look anywhere else but in your own relationship, as you can start to tackle your issues once you are both conscious of the presence of a rift between the two of you.

Take for example, you are wondering if your husband is having an affair; and that worries you so much to the extent that you cannot even look him in the eye while you are conversing. You tend to ignore your partner just to avoid confrontation, and you fear that your hunches might be true. Doing this will only worsen the situation, as you will not be able to hear your partner's side of the story.

To illustrate this, imagine you and your partner having dinner at home. While at the dining table, you can start to discuss about anything interesting for both of you. Set the mood for a serious talk by opening up a thought that you have been keeping, but make sure to use non-offensive words and weigh everything you say before you actually do so. This way, you can prevent ranting about your issues and heating up the conversation, and it would prevent you from sounding such a nagger.

When it comes to dealing with your problems, you should be aware of each other's feelings and opinion about the matter. To be able to successfully save the marriage, the best advice that you could follow is to learn to listen to your partner's views about matters concerning your relationship. The point where you would understand your issues better is at the moment when you become aware of what is truly happening in your individual lives.

When you made your vows, it implies that either of you would try everything to save the marriage, as per the common clause "through thick and thin" or "'til death do us part". For this, you should strive hard to make things work between you and your partner.




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