Dec 5, 2010

Is It Possible To Survive Infidelity

By Cindy Green


There is nothing that divides two people in a marriage faster than infidelity. No one thinks it is going to happen to them and, when it does, very few people know how to positively help the situation. Many want to know how to survive infidelity but the truth is there is no one way to go about it.

Infidelity is possibly the most hurtful thing that one partner can do to another. The injured partner is often angry and, without proper guidance, will often lash out at their husband or wife. Although this is completely normal it does not help the situation or the marriage.

When trust is broken the jilted partner may feel as if he or she cannot trust the other partner. This is frustrating for both parties because and sometimes there might not seem to be a way to resolve the problem. This is not true and there are ways in which this trust can be restores, it simply takes a lot of work.

Once an infidelity has occurred and the partner in question has come clean, there are steps that are usually taken within any marriage. The steps might be to move forward or to divorce. They can also choose to stay exactly where they are and hope the problem goes away.

When this is the case, both parties can quickly become unhappy in the marriage. For some reason or other, neither is ready to take a step in any direction. This includes getting a divorce or working through the infidelity.

If they both decide to work on the marriage then it can be saved. If they both decide to leave then there is nothing that can be worked on and the divorce proceedings are started. In both cases, it is the choice of the people involved.

Should both parties decide to work through it the most important decision that must be made between the two of them is that they will work hard. They will work together in order to survive it. This will make their marriage stronger.

A professional counsellor is one of the best options when it comes to trying to save a marriage. They have the knowledge and experience necessary to show both partners how they can work together. They can also help them to overcome the damage that the infidelity has caused to the marriage.

As time goes on, the couple needs to learn how to trust each other again. This is very important as a marriage without trust is like a plane without wings. Trust can only be re-established once the jilted partner believes that he or she will not be cheated on again.

Infidelity is a big problem is marriages today and the rates are steadily rising. Marriages are not as strong as they once were and this is because it takes a lot more work to make a marriage last than most people think. Counseling might also help both couples gain a realistic perception of it.

Communication as well as information regarding infidelity itself may help the couple understand what happened. It may also explain why it happened the way it did. This is a good way to start the healing and begin a new life of real trust and respect within the marriage.




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