When you begin to identify some of the signs associated with a down sliding relationship, you might be thinking "what can I do to save my relationship?" Hopefully this article will become a resource you can turn to to help you decide what it is that your relationship needs to get a jump start.
The most important advice anyone can give you is to listen. Clearly, the relationship isn't working, what will you do to change that? You can't do anything until you listen to what your partner has to say. Once you start the conversation, hopefully he or she will follow suit.
One thing not to do is use judgment. Being judgmental will force you to be defensive rather than listen. Just talk about what you want from your partner and ask for the same from him/her. Ask your partner why they might feel hurt or bothered by something you do. Ignoring or rejecting your partner's opinions will also make things work--so will using a negative tone. Even if you don't think you're behaving a specific way, your partner does so you need to listen to it.
As an example, if she feels that you have a controlling nature sometimes, you may ask her advice on how to change that. You can ponder over why you are doing things as you have done. She is not responsible for your insecurity if you don't find out where she usually goes by directly asking her. Such conversations can never be one sided. Both the partners should participate.
Any one of them is not responsible for the breakdown of a relationship. If anyone thinks that way, it will only spoil the relationship further.
Find out what is lacking. This will not be easy to do. To start, think about what things are different in your relationship. Is he or she more distant from you in bed than before. Are you both finding the time to be together? Finding out what has gone wrong in the relationship is a good place to start when you wish to repair it.
It is never easy to to love or trust someone so you really need to work hard to keep your relationship alive. But you don't have to do everything alone or to make allowances all of the time. As already mentioned, It takes two people to have a relationship problem so, you cannot solve the problem alone. This is not for the faint of heart as there will be some emotional pain involved in that conversation. But the dialogue is needed as it will help you keep your partnership alive.
Just one of them can't sort out all the troubles singly except when he or she ends it. It is not going to be easy and you are bound to feel upset by the dialog but it is important for the survival of the relationship. Getting furious will not solve any purpose. If you are shouting, it implies that you are not paying attention to your partner!
Even if at the end of the conversation you figure out how incompatible you are at least you know now. This conversation is the only way you could ever figure out what's wrong and try to fix it. Otherwise, it's a lot of empty conversations and more fighting--definitely something you are already tired of having to deal with.
The most important advice anyone can give you is to listen. Clearly, the relationship isn't working, what will you do to change that? You can't do anything until you listen to what your partner has to say. Once you start the conversation, hopefully he or she will follow suit.
One thing not to do is use judgment. Being judgmental will force you to be defensive rather than listen. Just talk about what you want from your partner and ask for the same from him/her. Ask your partner why they might feel hurt or bothered by something you do. Ignoring or rejecting your partner's opinions will also make things work--so will using a negative tone. Even if you don't think you're behaving a specific way, your partner does so you need to listen to it.
As an example, if she feels that you have a controlling nature sometimes, you may ask her advice on how to change that. You can ponder over why you are doing things as you have done. She is not responsible for your insecurity if you don't find out where she usually goes by directly asking her. Such conversations can never be one sided. Both the partners should participate.
Any one of them is not responsible for the breakdown of a relationship. If anyone thinks that way, it will only spoil the relationship further.
Find out what is lacking. This will not be easy to do. To start, think about what things are different in your relationship. Is he or she more distant from you in bed than before. Are you both finding the time to be together? Finding out what has gone wrong in the relationship is a good place to start when you wish to repair it.
It is never easy to to love or trust someone so you really need to work hard to keep your relationship alive. But you don't have to do everything alone or to make allowances all of the time. As already mentioned, It takes two people to have a relationship problem so, you cannot solve the problem alone. This is not for the faint of heart as there will be some emotional pain involved in that conversation. But the dialogue is needed as it will help you keep your partnership alive.
Just one of them can't sort out all the troubles singly except when he or she ends it. It is not going to be easy and you are bound to feel upset by the dialog but it is important for the survival of the relationship. Getting furious will not solve any purpose. If you are shouting, it implies that you are not paying attention to your partner!
Even if at the end of the conversation you figure out how incompatible you are at least you know now. This conversation is the only way you could ever figure out what's wrong and try to fix it. Otherwise, it's a lot of empty conversations and more fighting--definitely something you are already tired of having to deal with.
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