When we begin to look at the problems faced by marriages in our current society, we would discover a worrying trend. There are certain things many people simply take lightly. These things we take for granted gradually eat up the fabric of our marriages. What we would do here is to bring up one such thing so that we can be aware of it.
Everyone knows that there are problems that face marriages. One thing that we however may not want to admit is that we invite lot's of these issues on ourselves. One of the very common issues we see today is emotional infidelity. This may not seem to be something actually major. Many of us may claim not to fully know what emotional infidelity is so we shall attempt to explain what it is.
When you're emotionally intimate with someone other than your partner without extending to physical intimacy, you're guilty of emotional infidelity. Emotional infidelity is fed mostly by words. This explains the absence of physical intimacy. This leads us to a major matter I need for us to look at.
If asked, lot's of us would deny being guilty of emotional infidelity so I would approach this from a different angle. This would involve asking us some questions. Your response to these questions would determine your guilt or not.
Are you a Facebook user? Maybe not Facebook but are you serious on any social media network? You now have the first set of questions. Your response to the above would likely be in the positive. Let us then proceed to the next question.
How often are you on these networks?
You might want to know that a staggering 700 billion minutes are spent on Facebook monthly. This is enough reason to worry. These minutes we are made to understand come from time spent previously on face to face relationships and interactions. When we consider this in the context of what we're looking at, you would agree that this is not encouraging. Let us go on to the next question.
Who do you spend all this time with on this social network?
You of course cannot say that you spend all that time with your partner. That might only be possible if your partner lives in a different city from you. Nevertheless, the more common thing is that we have other individuals we spend time with online.
As if the matter of staying for so long chatting online is not bad enough, we now include video chat which really raises the chances of emotional infidelity. A common practice now is stripping on the video chat. Would you say a married person who participates in such an act with an individual different from his or her partner is guilty or not? It's just because there is no physical intimacy that it is called emotional infidelity.
It's necessary that something is done quickly. Unfortunately you might need to do this alone. If you want to know how to save your marriage alone, then begin by practicing the following:
- Make certain that you have quality time for your spouse
- Watch the amount of time you stay on social networks
- Carefully monitor the content of your communication on social media networks
- Find a way of catching your spouse's attention so much that they don't have time for social media
- Your partner needs to be aware that you are always there for them
This is almost like a fight and you need to be ready to fight for your marriage.
Everyone knows that there are problems that face marriages. One thing that we however may not want to admit is that we invite lot's of these issues on ourselves. One of the very common issues we see today is emotional infidelity. This may not seem to be something actually major. Many of us may claim not to fully know what emotional infidelity is so we shall attempt to explain what it is.
When you're emotionally intimate with someone other than your partner without extending to physical intimacy, you're guilty of emotional infidelity. Emotional infidelity is fed mostly by words. This explains the absence of physical intimacy. This leads us to a major matter I need for us to look at.
If asked, lot's of us would deny being guilty of emotional infidelity so I would approach this from a different angle. This would involve asking us some questions. Your response to these questions would determine your guilt or not.
Are you a Facebook user? Maybe not Facebook but are you serious on any social media network? You now have the first set of questions. Your response to the above would likely be in the positive. Let us then proceed to the next question.
How often are you on these networks?
You might want to know that a staggering 700 billion minutes are spent on Facebook monthly. This is enough reason to worry. These minutes we are made to understand come from time spent previously on face to face relationships and interactions. When we consider this in the context of what we're looking at, you would agree that this is not encouraging. Let us go on to the next question.
Who do you spend all this time with on this social network?
You of course cannot say that you spend all that time with your partner. That might only be possible if your partner lives in a different city from you. Nevertheless, the more common thing is that we have other individuals we spend time with online.
As if the matter of staying for so long chatting online is not bad enough, we now include video chat which really raises the chances of emotional infidelity. A common practice now is stripping on the video chat. Would you say a married person who participates in such an act with an individual different from his or her partner is guilty or not? It's just because there is no physical intimacy that it is called emotional infidelity.
It's necessary that something is done quickly. Unfortunately you might need to do this alone. If you want to know how to save your marriage alone, then begin by practicing the following:
- Make certain that you have quality time for your spouse
- Watch the amount of time you stay on social networks
- Carefully monitor the content of your communication on social media networks
- Find a way of catching your spouse's attention so much that they don't have time for social media
- Your partner needs to be aware that you are always there for them
This is almost like a fight and you need to be ready to fight for your marriage.
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