Nov 3, 2011

3 Ways You Are Setting Your Relationship Up To Fail

By Sarah Scott


Your relationship with your spouse should be cultivated every day. You and your spouse have to do all that you can to keep the love between you both alive. Make sure you avoid doing these things below if you'd like a harmonious, thriving, satisfying and loving marriage.

1. Overcommitment to Curricular Activities and Stress

Though it could be possible (many busy people can still have a thriving marriage) but extensive and intense activities outside your marriage can deteriorate your relationship with your spouse. Young couples, particularly, have a difficult time balancing school, children, starting a business, reconstructing their home, and work in their relationship. Many marriages fall to pieces when both couples are too busy to spend time together and cultivate their relationship. This doesn't suggest that you shouldn't do things outside your marriage. Just be sure to find a healthy balance between the activities in your life outside your marriage and time with your partner.

Can you think what life would look like for a husband who spends more time at work than he does with his other half? If he does not cultivate the bond he has with his other half on a day-to-day basis, his other half is more likely to build resentment and loneliness (particularly if he's too exhausted to connect when he gets home). It's vital to take time out of your day to connect on a rewarding level with your other half.

2. Are Your Fulfilling Your Spouse's Desires?

Are you a giver or taker? If a relationship consist of 2 takers, their relationship is going to suffer. Selfishness has no place in a relationship. Be conscious of your spouse's desires as well as they ought to be aware with yours. A marriage where both couples highest desires are met will overcome any adversity that dares to threaten their marriages. On the other hand, two givers in a marriage are prepared to have a successful and thriving relationship. Most marriages that fail are usually due to one (if not both) partner is not meeting their spouse's needs. Think about, do you believe a couple who satisfies each other's emotional and physical desires have many problems in their relationship?

3. Have You Got Unrealistic Expectations

Many couples go into a marriage with a certain expectation that only sets up their spouse to fail. Women are culprits when it comes to this. Many ladies have high expectations of their partner. The majority of these high expectations are from what they've learned through the media. These women have predetermined romantic ideas of what their marriage should be. Some partners do this too. Instead they have expectations of a domesticated wife who will do all the cooking, cleaning and household chores in the house. Ensure your expectations are realistic. Your not living in a fantasy world where your life is a movie. You are only setting yourself up for major disappointment if you do not keep your expectations on a realistic level.




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