Sep 3, 2011

Correct Vital Counsel Regarding How to Help Save your Marriage

By Sandy McDonald


More and more people are doubting the sanctity of marriage and whether or not it is still worth it these days. News of rising divorce and separation rates around the world aren't even as shocking as before. It's as if one can expect that there's that option that if their marriage won't work out, they can easily just get a divorce and be done with it. With this mentality, marriage is slowly losing its value and true importance in people's lives.

When you look back on what could've caused all these commotion, you later on realize that it just stemmed from one simple miscommunication-a very petty fight which transformed into an uncontrollable situation wherein you're left with almost no options but to just give up and end everything.

It's never too late to calm down, look at the bigger picture and start again. It should not be this easy to just give up and file for divorce or be separated. If there's still that part in you and your spouse which tells you that it can be saved, then it probably is worth the effort. To provide a little help, here are some small ways on how to save your marriage.

It can never be too late to start making an effort, and one of the ways on how to save your marriage is to make time for you and your spouse to have some quiet alone time. It is important that you and your spouse make an effort to shut the world off for a moment and just relax and talk to each other. It's the time wherein you can tell each other all your concerns and problems and in return, listen attentively to what your spouse has to say as well.

Another way on how to save your marriage is to do a little something for your spouse every day. It doesn't have to be something grand, it just has to be something unexpected and spontaneous. This adds a little romance which married couples sometimes forget to work on. It can be a cup of coffee, a short massage, a love letter, or even your spouse's favorite dinner at the end of a busy day.

One of the most important aspect of marriage and basically every relationship is the ability to compromise and be selfless. Prioritizing your spouse's needs before your own is probably the most important way on how to save your marriage. Selflessness and sacrifice is one of the highest forms of love you can ever offer to your spouse.

But at the end of the day, after all the efforts and hard work you've put into the ways on how to save your marriage, it is crucial to also attend to your personal needs and wants. It is important to recognize your self-worth and personal identity apart from your spouse's, and in return, your spouse will surely respect and value you for what you're truly worthy of.

Forcing and rushing things don't always prove beneficial. In trying to fix things, it is important to act slowly but surely, one step, one day at a time. You can't also force your spouse to change for you, just as you cannot be forced to change for him/her. What's important is to always keep the room for improvement open in order to make things work between you and your spouse.

No one is perfect just as no marriage can be perfect just like in the movies. You and your spouse have to learn to find the beauty in both of your imperfections and have a perfectly imperfect marriage for the rest of your lives. It's not really about which couple stays together the longest, it's about the couple who made it work amidst whatever trouble they've encountered and making the journey of their lifetime worth the ride.




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