Aug 26, 2011

Discover What You Can Do to Stop Your Marriage Ending and Stop a Divorce

By Sarah Scott


As you already understand divorce is a big decision to make and may be done so with plenty of thought and careful consideration. You and your other half used to be madly in love together. Remember those days when divorce felt unfanthomable ? Days filled with laughter, fun, play, passion and excitement. What has happened to those days? I am sure you have asked yourself that question numerous of times.

There could countless reasons that explain why your marriage isn't working but I can tell you the most important thing that every disturbed marriage has in common. Disturbed relationships occur because negative feelings from life's harsh realities have come between you and your spouse. Daily stress contributed and caused harmful feelings that deteriorated your once flourishing but now dying marriage.

Before getting wed, you knew that a long term committment would have it's highs, lows and plateaus Divorce is actually quitting. No lessons can be gained without pain. Rather than signing those divorce papers, opt for a temporary answer to your problem. Try experimenting with a trial separation prior to getting divorce. A trial separation allows each individual to reevaluate their own life and get space and breathing room from their toxic marriage. If done right a trial marriage separation CAN save your marriage.

These are some guidelines when it comes successful marriage separation:

-Don't date other people while you're briefly separated. If you are making an attempt to stop your marriage from dying, dating people will only complicate your relationship.

-Don't make a decision to separate without making clear and understandable terms. You and your spouse have to be on the same page when it comes to a trial separation.

-Don't consistently contact your spouse in a separation. The point of living under different roofs is so you and your other half can figure out whether you both desire each other in your lives. If you consistently call your spouse--you're not going to be getting the full benefits of a separation.

-If you do wish to stop your marriage from dying, these are some things that you need to do in a trial marriage separation.

-Do continue communication with your partner about once ever other week or so. Plan to make a time to catch up on each other's life.

-Do date your spouse. This could be a chance for you and your spouse to rediscover and re-light your attraction for each other.

-Do tell your partner your agenda when you come over to fix the house, look after finances, see the kids and and so on. Can you imagine how your other half would feel if they thought you were coming over for a date when your agenda was different .

A trial separation can save your marriage if you do it correctly. As long as you and your spouse set up clear and concise guidelines, as well as a timeframe, plan on seeing a marriage counselor (this can massively improve your chances of saving your marriage).

Improving how you relate to your partner can immensely improve your marriage. Check out what The Path to Passion can do to save your marriage.




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