May 24, 2011

How to Get Through The Stages of Breaking up

By Lynn Huber


Love is said to be the most fantastic thing here on earth. It really makes our lives more meaningful. In addition, loving and being loved in return or merely being in a relationship is the most terrific experience that we can go through. Yet, a euphoric and bright relationship may turn into darkness once it reaches the end of the line which is ordinarily referred to as breaking up.

This is the time when we feel so terrible because of the aches and anguishes that we feel deep within our hearts. As a matter of fact, there are certain degrees of breaking up which we are going to run into whether we like it or not. Here are some of the most common stages of breaking up:

1st stage: The first stage pertaining to break ups is the feeling of shock. This is actually our initial response once we find out that our relationship is about to end. This feeling is just pretty normal because no one knows when, where, and how a certain break up will happen.

2nd stage: Refusing to believe that our relationship has now had to end is the second stage which we will encounter in a break up experience. If we haven't been stunned with the news of breaking up then maybe, we are just in denial that something is wrong with our present relationship. We try to make ourselves believe that any cracks in our relationship are just cracks that can still be solved; when in fact such cracks are tough to fix and toughest of all, cannot be fixed anymore.

3rd stage: The third stage is depression. Being depressed after the break up is just a normal feeling. After all, no one is going to be happy in news about breaking up. However, we merely have to bear in mind not to think overly about what happened because it won't do us any good at all.

4th stage: The last stage that we are going to meet in a break up experience is acceptance. Sometimes, the very safest way to deal with a break up is to accept the fact that our relationship was never intended to last. We just have to be happy that we have experienced the magic of love even in a short while with someone whom we really loved. At this stage, you realise that it is over and you in all probability will be willing to meet some new people to potentially date.




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