Jan 21, 2011

Save My Marriage! 4 Tips To Help You Save Your Marriage

By Areelitaha Joahlanski


This article will be helpful to individuals who are looking around and came to the point to ask "save my marriage?". Reworking on a marriage when it is hanging on to its last few strings is a big challenge because it involves rebuilding the trust and faith which was the very foundation of this relationship. When faced with a troubled marriage, each person has four options from which he/she can choose.

The four options that are available to them are: They can give up on the relationship and call it quits. Each partner can pack their bag and baggage and get going with life without turning back. The second option is that you can try exerting control on your spouse and talk them into reworking on the decision they have taken. You can wage a war on your spouse and drag him/her to court and try to squeeze out as much as possible from the relationship. The fourth and the most challenging option that you have is take the bull by the horns and bounce back to rework on this relationship. Once you have decided and chosen on the fourth option, this article will come in handy since it has a few tips that can help you save your marriage.

Most of the marriages go awry because the expectations are not met. Hence, it is important to set right expectations and gain clear understanding of it. You and your spouse need to draw up a list of ten important things that you expect from each other. Then, share the list and rework on it if needed. Once ready and accepted, you have to ensure that you stick to what you agreed upon.

Sit back and think about what went wrong and why the relationship took a hit. See the mistakes that were committed by both of you. Don't be biased; be realistic. Once you have realized what went wrong, ensure that you don't commit the same errors again. Learn, improvise and move forward.

Do not lose your cool. There might be times when you will want to yell at your spouse for spoiling the beautiful relationship that you shared with him/her thus subjecting you to the current ordeal, but, do not do that. Impulsive reactions are what trigger the last shreds of marriage to be broken. Hence, keep a check on your temper. Remember you don't want to be the one to show the door when you both are putting in efforts to save the relationship.

Don't ever blame your partner for things going wrong though it may seem very tempting. Appreciate him/her for the efforts he/she is putting in willingly to rework on the marriage. Complaining pushes you away from your partner but praising helps in bridging gaps. Don't get into arguments with your partner when they are trying to express their feelings to you. Instead, be patient and listen willingly. Show that you care.




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