Jan 25, 2011

How To Get Back A Girlfriend Without Losing Your Dignity

By Chris Angello


If you want to Get Back A Girlfriend, you're not alone. Many guys go through break-ups and find themselves alone, confused, wondering what just happened and why. Things were going great (you thought) but out of the blue she hits you with "Lets be friends" or the dreaded "I've found someone else".

Women can be very confusing. It's not always easy to tell what kind of games they're playing, if any at all. Some seem to be with you, but you have a feeling that if someone else came along that she found more attractive, she would up and leave in a second.

If she is the one who broke up with you, it may be a bit more difficult to get her back, but if you broke up with her and now you regret the decision, you might have a better chance at winning her over once again.

Men and women both are selfish animals. This is not necessarily a bad thing. Self preservation comes naturally for all living beings, especially the human kind. Finding a balance between selfishness and selflessness is the key to making a relationship last. It's not easy to sacrifice one's self, one's ego, for the sake of someone else, but this is what people must do in order to build strong bonds with one another.

Most relationships do fail at some point. Finding the "one" takes a lot of trial and error. Many people refuse to believe that they have made a mistake in their choice of partner and continue to hold on, while trying to pretend (or perhaps even convincing themselves) that everything is going to be great eventually.

People break up all the time for many reasons. The main underlying reason for one person leaving another, is lack of communication. If you're not able to talk to one another without becoming defensive, without also listening to what the other has to say, the relationship is bound to fail. No matter what the fights and arguments may seem to be about on the surface, lack of understanding is usually the reason why the same fights and arguments continue.

One of the most difficult things for a human to do is to put aside their own ego, their own wants and needs and truly listen to and understand what another person is saying or feeling. This is especially hard when what they're saying might seem a bit offensive. No one likes to be told they are wrong or have their flaws pointed out to them, but you must be able to listen and put yourself in your partners shoes so you can try to see in yourself what they are seeing. This of course, works both ways.

When the two of you are able to talk to each other, listen and understand each other, only then can a relationship work. If it's over and you want to get it back. The worst thing you could possibly do is to jump right back into the way things were before. A little time is needed after a break-up for you both to collect yourselves. If you had a strong friendship, it won't go away so easily, but before you make any attempts at getting back together you both have be able to calmly talk to each other.




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