Nov 27, 2010

Secret Tips to Fix Marriage

By Cindy Green


You never thought your marriage would be over. It can be stressful and heartbreaking to think that your marriage might be over. If you feel that way, here are a few tips that might help fix marriage.

The key to a successful marriage is to have constant communication between the two of you. The easy thing and what most people tend to do when a significant other does something hurtful is to bottle it up inside. You shrug it off and push the hurt feelings aside to avoid an argument. Bottling up feelings can tend to accumulate if you do not say something.

These feelings that you have accumulated or shrugged off will tend to come out when you least expect them. If you and your spouse start arguing over something small, these feelings will probably come out. Once your emotions starts coming out that you have bottled up, the small situation will grow into something bigger. This is how accumulated bad feelings tend to come out at the wrong time.

Since your spouse knows that it bothered you, the next time a similar situation comes up; he will choose his words carefully or do things differently to spare your feelings. This is why communication is the number one way to keep a marriage intact. You get to express your feelings without bottling them up.

Another thing you can do when trying to mend a marriage that is falling apart is to go back to the beginning. When you first started dating, everything was happy times between you and your spouse because you were trying to impress each other. By now you and your spouse have become used to each other and probably take each other for granted. The little love notes and the kisses have probably stopped. Do the small things you did for your spouse when you were trying to impress them while dating.

Re-visit the places you two used to go out to as a date. Go to your favorite spot, or to dance your song as a couple. All these things can make you remember why you loved your partner in the first place. If you have children find a baby sitter for the night and enjoy each others company. Sometimes this is all that is needed to help fix things between you and your loved one.

You and your spouse should try and take a trip together. Plan a vacation where only you and your spouse will attend. This will be your get away from the stress that comes with every day life. This stress can cause you and your significant other to release the tension on each other, by yelling and screaming at one another. Even taking care of your children can cause stress and tension in a marriage.

Your vacation can be for just the weekend, or a week, to even a month. The point is to spend that time with one another to get back the good times you two shared. It is also important to keep the communication flowing while you are on this vacation to fix marriage. Doing these things can definitely improve your marriage.




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