Oct 31, 2010

Trying To Get Back A Girlfriend That You Lost

By Ashley Turner

You will be extremely happy when you find a girl whom you want to marry. The thought of breaking up never comes into your mind at that time. Even if a break up does occur, don't worry because there are ways to get back a girlfriend and live together for the rest of your lives.

The first thing is not to rush things fast. Let her have enough time to get over the shock of the break up. In the meantime, think of ways by which you can keep in contact with her. After some time, she will find it difficult to live without you and she will come back to you.

If the mistake on your part is a serious one like cheating on her and telling lies, allow a few weeks time before you talk to her again. This time gap is enough for her to decide on what she wants and enough time for you to decide what to tell her when you meet her.

The worst thing you could do is give her reasons to get back together with you. You need to show her. Whether this means being patient with her or being completely honest, telling her that you want to get back together won't be sufficient to help her change her mind.

When she speaks, you can easily understand what the problem is and try to understand it in its real sense. Though it may seem difficult, this is the only way forward and hopefully you will get your love back.

If you finally get her to talk to you and all she says is she needs more time, let her have it. It can be frustrating wanting to be with her, but forcing her into will not be a good idea! She needs to know you will be patient with her and let her think about what she wants.

By giving her space, it'll show her that you are understanding and trying everything you can do to get her back. It's subtle acts like these that can show her that you truly want her to come back to you and that you're really willing to make it work.

If all these steps don't work, try talking to a professional. She'll need a bit of convincing, but you should still try to go. This will help you figure out what went wrong in your relationship and how you can actually fix all of these problems.

When you two begin to discuss how you feel, it's important you continue listening to everything she says. People tend to think more about how they will respond to what someone is saying rather than genuinely listening. This is not what you should be doing because it prevents you from truly getting to know how she feels and why.

If there is one thing you will hopefully take away from this article, it should be that fixing any relationship is not quick. It takes time and there's a possibility that it won't work out, but it's still worth the effort.

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