Seeing your marriage fall apart right in front your very eyes is the worst thing that could happen to anyone. And knowing that your partner does not want to try working things out with you is like a knife that slowly stabs you. It would not be easy to save your marriage, but maybe it's possible if you are determined to put in all the works.
Sometimes when we get so focused with our goals, we forget to take its worth into consideration. This happens most of the time in marriages. When one feels the marriage is falling apart, he or she will do anything to save it at all costs. He or she gets so focused to the point of forgetting to consider if it should really be saved in the first place.
Not all marriages are worth saving for. It may be hard to admit because it's difficult to hear and most religions would post strong objection on it, but that statement is true. Sometimes there are simply too many obstacles that you can't overcome. This is especially true if one partner has a problem. This is what happens in most celebrity marriages.
If a partner has been unfaithful once but regrets it sincerely, then maybe, just maybe the marriage can be saved. It won't be easy but it's not impossible to do. However, if your partner has been cheating not just once but multiple times already and has been lying all along, then that is a severe problem and it will take a long, long time to be fixed, if there's anything you can do to fix it.
In this situation ending the suffering of the faithful spouse is the most important consideration to make. The marriage probably shouldn't be saved at all if you're going through this difficult time. It's not going to be easy to save your marriage alone.
Another instance, I have this friend who has an alcoholic husband. She is a great wife and a mother to their children. But the marriage is still not stable because of her husband. She wants to make things work. She wants them to stay together, but unless her husband changes, the marriage will still be rocky no matter what she does. Their marriage will still be ruined and that won't be a good example to their children.
You do not want your children to grow up seeing one parent abuse the other parent. You won't want them to form wrong ideas about what relationships should be like. Sometimes a marriage should rather be broken than intact but the respect is gone. It will be much better to just move on and hopefully find someone else who rightfully treats a partner.
If you really want to save your marriage, think clearly and weigh you options first. If your partner doesn't care about how you feel or the relationship enough to try to save it, is there really something worth saving? A good relationship will never be perfect but it should be well balanced where each partner is giving as much as they are getting.
Sometimes when we get so focused with our goals, we forget to take its worth into consideration. This happens most of the time in marriages. When one feels the marriage is falling apart, he or she will do anything to save it at all costs. He or she gets so focused to the point of forgetting to consider if it should really be saved in the first place.
Not all marriages are worth saving for. It may be hard to admit because it's difficult to hear and most religions would post strong objection on it, but that statement is true. Sometimes there are simply too many obstacles that you can't overcome. This is especially true if one partner has a problem. This is what happens in most celebrity marriages.
If a partner has been unfaithful once but regrets it sincerely, then maybe, just maybe the marriage can be saved. It won't be easy but it's not impossible to do. However, if your partner has been cheating not just once but multiple times already and has been lying all along, then that is a severe problem and it will take a long, long time to be fixed, if there's anything you can do to fix it.
In this situation ending the suffering of the faithful spouse is the most important consideration to make. The marriage probably shouldn't be saved at all if you're going through this difficult time. It's not going to be easy to save your marriage alone.
Another instance, I have this friend who has an alcoholic husband. She is a great wife and a mother to their children. But the marriage is still not stable because of her husband. She wants to make things work. She wants them to stay together, but unless her husband changes, the marriage will still be rocky no matter what she does. Their marriage will still be ruined and that won't be a good example to their children.
You do not want your children to grow up seeing one parent abuse the other parent. You won't want them to form wrong ideas about what relationships should be like. Sometimes a marriage should rather be broken than intact but the respect is gone. It will be much better to just move on and hopefully find someone else who rightfully treats a partner.
If you really want to save your marriage, think clearly and weigh you options first. If your partner doesn't care about how you feel or the relationship enough to try to save it, is there really something worth saving? A good relationship will never be perfect but it should be well balanced where each partner is giving as much as they are getting.
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