Aug 1, 2011

How to Defeat Fear of Marriage

By Samantha Kate


Many people think that marriage is a gate to an unending experience of trials and struggles. People who are terrified of it are scared of commitment because they know that it includes experiencing unhappy moments aside from the blissful ones.

But why do others prefer to get married despite the constant challenge, anyway? It is because marriage is a bond between two people who love each other and who are willing to spend the rest of their lived together. For many, getting married is sealing the relationship, securing that it lasts until death do they part.

So how do people, with fear of marriage, conquer their anxiety with promise? The task is not that easy because it needs a huge sense of self-assessment. While it may take time and effort, it is essential to evaluate ones fear of marriages. If you are one who needs this, read through.

Identify what makes you afraid of marriage. Is it because you have witnessed so many failed ones? Are you afraid of pain so much that you would not risk anything just so you can escape from it? Well, sadly, pain is everywhere in this world.

Tackle your fears and converse it over with your partner. There is a reason why you are so afraid of marriage even if you want to get settled down. By communicating those fears with your husband to be, you are finding a way for someone to help you with it. Who knows, he might promise you of something that would make you change your mind about commitments.

Those are just a few tips that you can do. If you just try and make an effort to overcome fear, you will succeed in it. Of course, this goes without saying that you should already have found the ideal man to marry. Yes, there are perfect men and there are assholes. If you gut feel tells you that you're just going to get hurt if you marry your current boyfriend, then you just have to end the relationship while it is early.




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Jul 31, 2011

How To Save Your Marriage

By Samantha Kate


When you switched vows with your wife, you promised to stay true to one another, through thick and thin. You vowed never to be departed until death parts you away from each other. But there are inevitable moments when problems get into your blissful marriage. Money, children and intimacy are just some of the factors that take out the passion. Little do you know that you are chasing from the connection that you once had before. Before you fall into a state where you want to get annulled or divorce, do these things in order to save your marriage.

1. Instead of communicating through phone calls or instant messages, make a time when you two would just sit beside each other and talk about your day. That will reestablish the initiate moments that you two once treasured.

2. After restarting the communication without technology, recall the passion you have for one another by sending sweet letters where you profess each other's love. Try to make this as random or unpredictable as you can. It will be sweeter that way.

3. Ask your wife for dinner. You might not find time to engage anymore because you think that you are already together all the time, anyway. But a real date is special. With it, you can start dressing up for each other and go out for dinner where both of you can amaze each other.

The solution really is just to make your wife the number one concern of your life. Work and children can take out most of your time, and you may end up overlooking that you also have a bond with your wife, but bear in mind that before you had a family, you only had each other. Being in a marriage may be about managing all the important things in your life but it also means allowing your wife to juggle them with you. So make sure that you do.




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