May 6, 2012

The Demands Of Coping With Infidelity

By Jona Imazer


It is no news that many marriages are facing serious problems. All you have to do is ask around and you would be amazed at what you would discover. Many people rush into filing for divorce without truly appreciating what it's all about. The situation is actually worsened by the media. No one comes out to speak the truth about what they really went through in their divorce. They make it sound so glamorous.

A lot of people listen to these untrue accounts of divorce and conclude that it is an easy way to go. It is now almost a crime to see a failing by your spouse and choose to forgive. People look at such a person as foolish. With this attitude, coping with infidelity would be an unpardonable sin

It simply reeks of deceit to listen a person say openly how happy they are to be divorced. Aside from an individual who went into marriage with a plan to get a divorce so as to get some financial benefits, anyone who goes through a separation always feels pain. If you experienced the natural process of falling in love then getting married, you MUST go through hurt.

Don't allow yourself to be taken in by these false tales of the glamors of divorce. You would only discover the truth after you have entered into it. Sadly, you also may not come out to say the truth about your experience since you would not want to appear old fashioned.

It is usually refreshing when I see people who truly call out "save my marriage." This is the heart cry of anybody who really desires to build a home. We must at this point pose this question. Is it possible for someone to save your marriage?

This question can be viewed from different angles. From one point of view, you can say that nobody can help a marriage. Indirectly, somebody can help you save your marriage. The main issue we are attempting to prove here is that nobody can save your marriage apart you.

The person who goes for marriage counseling is doing so to find out how to save his or her marriage. This is an individual decision to take a step towards repairing their marriage. The decision to implement what suggested at the therapy sessions is also another issue of choice.

The best a therapist can do is counsel and suggest to you the things that would help your marriage. You as the person actually in the middle of it would be responsible for the very implementation. If all the decisions you make are targeted at saving your marriage, you can rightly say that you're actually the one fixing your marriage.

There's nothing as nice as seeing a couple committed to making their marriage succeed. There is nothing that would be too hard for couples such as these to handle. Each person is ready to do their part to ensure that things work. It can actually be frustrating to one partner if they are the only ones committed to making the marriage succeed.

Decide to make your marriage work now and see it work.




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