Jul 26, 2010

How To Get Back Your Ex - 3 Things You Must Do First

Cover of "The Break-Up (Full Screen Editi...Cover of The Break-Up (Full Screen Edition)Have you just recently experienced a break up?

Are you wondering "how can I get back together with my ex?

You may want to get your ex back right now, this is a common feeling that everyone experiences.

Your in a very vulnerable state right now, perhaps you feel like you're on an emotional roller coaster. You're probably thinking up all the ways you could try to get your ex back. You might immediately feel like calling your ex and begging them to come back to you. But is this really going to make things better?

In most cases, probably not, more than likely it will only make your situation much worse and you may end up pushing your ex away for good.

What you should actually do at this point is the opposite to what you're feeling. Do you feel like calling your ex? Don't! Do you feel like staying inside and crying all day long? Don't! Instead, follow these three basic steps and you will have the answer that you need to the age old question "How do I get back together with my ex?"

Step 1. Accept the Break Up!
First and foremost, you need to accept that the break up is happening. Tell your ex that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin. When you do this, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress that is being experienced by all. Your ex needs time to think about your relationship, this will also give you some time to consider your options. If your ex realizes that he or she still loves you, they will find a way to get back with you.

Step 2. Do not contact your ex!
It's very important that you don't try to contact your ex right now. Cut off all communication, don't even send text messages or messages through a mutual friend, you both need some time to think. This may seem counter intuitive, but by cutting communication off you are signaling that you have already moved on and that you are doing just fine.

This will allow him or her to think about the relationship and how they feel about its value. It will also allow them to have some time to miss you again. When you can separate yourself from your ex and create some distance from the painful emotions you're feeling over the break up, it will give you ex the time to think about how important you are to them. The old saying, "absence makes the heart grow fonder" is not just an old wives tale, it's often proven to actually be true. Don't you miss him or her more now that you're apart?

Step 3 - Plan Ahead for a Get Together
Once you have completed the two steps mentioned just above, you can start working on planning when you should meet, where you should meet, and also what should be said when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not your ex still loves you, and also if there is any chance that you and your ex will be able to get back together.

"How to get back your ex?" Can be a little more complicated than the three steps above. But they are a good start and will improve your chances of winning your ex back. If you're in this situation and you want to get your ex back, the Magic Of Making Up is a proven system that lays out a step by step action plan to get help you get back with your ex.

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Here's to your success,

Mamry Lane

How Do I Get Back My Ex

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