Heartbreak is a pain like any other. It is an emotional pain so bottomless that it can feel like a physical blow. When you have a pain like this one, all you want is for the deep ache to go away. I wish I could tell you otherwise, but the truth is there is no band aid for a broken heart. Time is the remedy needed for you to truly heal from such a deep, wrenching pain even though it may sound clich. Give it time and this pain will go away. But between now and then, there are some basic tips that might be able to make the difference in how you are feeling.
Go ahead and cry: For the few weeks, you are going to feel really miserable. Depending how emotional of a person you are, you may feel like crying for days. Go ahead and do it. Something just happened in your life, something significant and very painful. You can't expect yourself to just feel a little sad about it and then be able to just shut if off with a switch. It's not that simple, after all. You need to grieve for your loss. Not too long though. You will only end up getting hurt if you stay in the past for too long. How about seeing rule number 4.
Talk to Someone Close: Cry on someone's shoulder, someone who cares about you to get your feelings out. This is one way you can purify your soul and so let that someone in to share your pain. Allow them to listen, offer advice, and comfort you. Sharing this comfort can make you feel better even though it is not necessary for you to have to take that advice. It is essential to make sure that you only allow yourself to grieve and lean on someone for a time because you need to move forward.
Distract Yourself: Bring friends you care about back into your life. Could it be that having the relationship was keeping you from spending time with your parents, or siblings? Or maybe you just hadn't talked to your best friend in weeks. Surround yourself with this support network. To get lost in a project, getting things that need to be done around the house done is a great way to do so. Try going to the gym. How about organize your closet. You can even get out and take a walk. You should distract yourself because it is a great stepping stone to moving on with your life. This brings us to rule number 4.
Forget the past and look toward the future: Look forward once you have allowed yourself the indulgence of grieving for a part of your life that is now past. Not to mention a definite need for you to start a new chapter in the book of your life. Now that you are past the sadness and anger, it is time for hope and renewal that will help you to move on. Take time out for yourself; get to know yourself as a single individual instead of as part of a couple. You can replenish your soul by becoming you again.
When you follow these sometimes difficult but necessary steps, you can then start to heal the broken pieces of your heart. Aside from being whole again, you will also be able to become whatever you wish to become. Now is your chance to start fresh and once the pain starts to ease, you will see it as such an opportunity.
Go ahead and cry: For the few weeks, you are going to feel really miserable. Depending how emotional of a person you are, you may feel like crying for days. Go ahead and do it. Something just happened in your life, something significant and very painful. You can't expect yourself to just feel a little sad about it and then be able to just shut if off with a switch. It's not that simple, after all. You need to grieve for your loss. Not too long though. You will only end up getting hurt if you stay in the past for too long. How about seeing rule number 4.
Talk to Someone Close: Cry on someone's shoulder, someone who cares about you to get your feelings out. This is one way you can purify your soul and so let that someone in to share your pain. Allow them to listen, offer advice, and comfort you. Sharing this comfort can make you feel better even though it is not necessary for you to have to take that advice. It is essential to make sure that you only allow yourself to grieve and lean on someone for a time because you need to move forward.
Distract Yourself: Bring friends you care about back into your life. Could it be that having the relationship was keeping you from spending time with your parents, or siblings? Or maybe you just hadn't talked to your best friend in weeks. Surround yourself with this support network. To get lost in a project, getting things that need to be done around the house done is a great way to do so. Try going to the gym. How about organize your closet. You can even get out and take a walk. You should distract yourself because it is a great stepping stone to moving on with your life. This brings us to rule number 4.
Forget the past and look toward the future: Look forward once you have allowed yourself the indulgence of grieving for a part of your life that is now past. Not to mention a definite need for you to start a new chapter in the book of your life. Now that you are past the sadness and anger, it is time for hope and renewal that will help you to move on. Take time out for yourself; get to know yourself as a single individual instead of as part of a couple. You can replenish your soul by becoming you again.
When you follow these sometimes difficult but necessary steps, you can then start to heal the broken pieces of your heart. Aside from being whole again, you will also be able to become whatever you wish to become. Now is your chance to start fresh and once the pain starts to ease, you will see it as such an opportunity.
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