So you've found yourself in the position all of us fear - being dumped by your girl. Now prior to going and doing something stupid, you'll have to count to 10 and truly consider the implications of what you're about to do.
The chances are that you're considering making one of the common mistakes that many other blokes make at this point but if you want to know how to get your ex-girlfriend back you need to avoid the following whatever ever you do.
Texting - this is probably the most common mistake, and it is a natural reaction. You're hurt and you want to maintain contact with your ex in the hope of getting her to change her mind. The reality is, the more that you call or text after a breakup, the more you are going to irritate her, no matter how good your reasons are. She needs space to contemplate things, so give her that. Whether she is saying so or not, she'll appreciate you leaving her alone.....and trust me, this can only look better for you in the coming days.
Sending flowers - unless you really did something unpleasant that you need to apologize for, this is a really bad idea. First off, she just did something to cause heartache in your life, why are you rewarding her by giving her a present? Second, when you really think about it, this is basically a kind of manipulation. You're not sending her flowers because you would like to send her something to brighten her day, you are doing it as a bribe to get her to come back to you. She is going to realize this also , so it's only making you look bad - don't do it!
Informing her that you adore her and will always be there for her is an enormous no as well. You definitely must not sink down to this level of wussiness, it will not do you any good in any way. You may well think you're saying something noble and demonstrating how much you care, but in reality you're actually just telling her she will be able to do whatever she wants to do and take her sweet time thinking things over because you'll be there waiting if she comes to a decision to change her mind. A better plan is to just let her wonder about your real feelings. Not knowing will create a feeling of mystery, and her interest might very well bring her to call you up herself.
There are many other mistakes you've got to avoid, but these 3 are the most important offenses. Avoid them at all costs and you'll have won 1/2 of the battle. With a little emotional control and patience, possibilities are that your lady will come back on her own. So for now, just keep a positive attitude, and bide your time.
The chances are that you're considering making one of the common mistakes that many other blokes make at this point but if you want to know how to get your ex-girlfriend back you need to avoid the following whatever ever you do.
Texting - this is probably the most common mistake, and it is a natural reaction. You're hurt and you want to maintain contact with your ex in the hope of getting her to change her mind. The reality is, the more that you call or text after a breakup, the more you are going to irritate her, no matter how good your reasons are. She needs space to contemplate things, so give her that. Whether she is saying so or not, she'll appreciate you leaving her alone.....and trust me, this can only look better for you in the coming days.
Sending flowers - unless you really did something unpleasant that you need to apologize for, this is a really bad idea. First off, she just did something to cause heartache in your life, why are you rewarding her by giving her a present? Second, when you really think about it, this is basically a kind of manipulation. You're not sending her flowers because you would like to send her something to brighten her day, you are doing it as a bribe to get her to come back to you. She is going to realize this also , so it's only making you look bad - don't do it!
Informing her that you adore her and will always be there for her is an enormous no as well. You definitely must not sink down to this level of wussiness, it will not do you any good in any way. You may well think you're saying something noble and demonstrating how much you care, but in reality you're actually just telling her she will be able to do whatever she wants to do and take her sweet time thinking things over because you'll be there waiting if she comes to a decision to change her mind. A better plan is to just let her wonder about your real feelings. Not knowing will create a feeling of mystery, and her interest might very well bring her to call you up herself.
There are many other mistakes you've got to avoid, but these 3 are the most important offenses. Avoid them at all costs and you'll have won 1/2 of the battle. With a little emotional control and patience, possibilities are that your lady will come back on her own. So for now, just keep a positive attitude, and bide your time.
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