Nov 6, 2011

Take Actions Into Your Own Hands and Save Your Marriage

By Clay Andrews


Having said that, it is possible to keep your marriage alive even when you've lost all hope. At one point, your spouse is going to need to join you in saving your relationship. The question is..."how can you make your spouse want to save your marriage?" Try the following tips below to improve your marriage, even though you are the only one who's committed to fixing it.

Keep these 2 things in mind:

1) You are the only person in the marriage that may change yourself. You can't change anybody even if that person is your spouse.

2) Start making changes in your life, your spouse can take the lead to change also. This is due to the fact that when you change, your relationship dynamic can change too. This could push your other half to adjust too.

If you do these changes thoroughly and cleverly, it can inspire your spouse to do some positive change and you won't feel just like saving your relationship alone after all.

If there is any problems in your relationship of any sort, then the best thing that you can do is ask yourself on how you made a contribution to it. The issues in a committed relationship are seldom due to one individual. One such example is when your partner is treating you badly then you have to ask yourself why it is happening. Perhaps your partner is really is a jerk but if this has been happening for a while then it is usually because you are allowing it. You need to accept responsibility as well to why your marriage has soured.

One quote from Dr.. Phil, who has helped many people has said, "We teach folks how to treat us" This is a powerful truth. If you're saving your marriage alone then you have to ask yourself some things on why your spouse is reacting to you in this certain ways.

If you should happen to feel like you do not deserve respect then people are not going to offer you respect. Somewhere along the path, our point of view of our own self worth gets bent. And we perceive what we get is what we deserve. That is not the case.

Your other half is responsible for the actions being made. The single thing you are responsible of is your own reaction and your own approach. If you would like to keep your marriage alive, then you want to make the correct changes in your own reaction or your own perspective. If you're doing the same with no results, then you know you are approaching it the wrong way. It is time that you do something new.

Did you know that you have the power to switch your marriage more than you realize? When you change yourself, your attitude, behavior and reaction in your relationship, then you'll see that it can change your marriage too. All successful marriages consist of people who feel successful themselves as a person.

What if you just can't get the love back in your marriage? I know how hard it can be to try and make your spouse understand just how special your love is, but if you want to really make your marriage sing again you'll need to learn that you can't use the same strategy you've been using in the past.




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Nov 5, 2011

Who Else Wants To Know 4 Different Ways To Help A Marriage Thrive?

By Sarah Scott


Remember that you married the man or woman of your dreams. Why else would you commit to if you were not sure your other half was "the one?" It is extremely common for many people's relationship to plateau after they are married. It does not mean that your relationship is over.

Just like with life, we all have our ups and downs. Same goes with our marriage and relationships. There'll be days that reminds you why you married your spouse and there'll be days that makes you question if this is what you really wanted.

Many folks go into a marriage (especially women) expecting the relationship to be on "fire" all of the time. That right there is a unrealistic expectation. The person whom you selected to co-habitat with in a committed relationship is not perfect and neither are you. If you have certain expectations on what a perfect marriage looks like, let it go because there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Marriage will take work and effort to keep each person happy and satisfied. Here are 4 good habits to get into to help your marriage flourish.

1. Share Experiences Together (Whether Or Not It Is Not Your Thing) We have our differences. We may love doing one thing where as our partner may hate it. Try showing an interest in what your other half likes. I am not implying you have to love it but it is nice to take interest in each other's past-times. You may be slightly taken aback at how much fun your having at something you thought you hated. Remember the couple who plays together, laughs together.

2. Make a Routine Out of Connecting Together

Life can be particularly hectic. That's why it's even more vital to make time out of your day to connect with your other half. Talk it up with your spouse. Couples who chitchat about little things typically have an easier time debating about the crucial things than others who've got a much tougher time bringing up the issue.

3. Write In Your Book

You will be stunned at how writing in a journal can control your anger. When you're upset about something, cool down by writing in your journal. Writing about your emotions is a great way to let go of bad emotions instead of taking it out on your other half.

Many times, stress from life puts us in a bad mood. Instead of snapping at your partner, decompress your emotions in your journal. When your irritated and angry at the world, it's so simple to snap at the ones we love.

4. Publicly Praise Your Other Half

When you are out with a bunch of friends or have people around you, praise your other half. It's wonderful to hear compliments about yourself from other folks. Think how amazing it would feel to hear your partner brag about you in front of others. Nurture your spouse's self-esteem. Words of praise can bear as much weight as the malicious words that causes scars.

When you are out with a bunch of pals or have folk around you, praise your partner. It's great to hear compliments about yourself from other people. Think how amazing it might feel to hear your spouse brag about you in front of others. Nurture your spouse's self-confidence. Words of praise can bear as much weight as the hurtful words that causes scars.




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